{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Pathological Positivity","title":"How to Stay Positive Around Difficult People: Four Steps – Episode #730","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/64cf2a4e\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1048,"description":"Dr. Paul Jenkins explains how to stay positive around negative people, especially during holiday family gatherings. He shares a practical four-step strategy for observing others' behavior without absorbing their negativity.\nWant the framework behind this episode? Get The Positivity Model, free: https://pathologicalpositivity.com/go/positivity-model?m=notes&e=730\nGet the free Positivity Power Pack, a short minibook, a workbook and guided audios from Dr. Paul: https://pathologicalpositivity.com/go/powerpack?m=notes&e=730\nThe episode walks through how we get emotionally hooked by personalizing others' comments and creating victim stories, and introduces the concept that feedback is information about its source. Dr. Paul teaches four steps: calm your brain, reframe the experience as an observer, take responsibility for your feelings, and create a hero story about how you choose to show up. Daily breathing exercises and meditations that support the calming practice are available on the Positives platform.\nDr. Paul challenges listeners to attend an upcoming family gathering and find a way to enjoy it regardless of what anyone else chooses to do. He frames this as a powerful psychological experiment in choosing your position and practicing resilience.\nChapters\n0:00 Staying positive around others\n1:18 Understanding emotional hooks\n3:57 Observing without absorbing\n6:32 Four steps to stay positive\n12:40 The holiday gathering challenge\n15:31 Recap and upcoming offers","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/xjmea_5-7GqL7dCfisXwKAiavbDKpi9kEphLW5PiqBU/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9jYjQx/ZDUzYWNlZGJmY2E4/Njc0OTUyODliNzQ5/ZDE1My5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}