{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Trigger Proof Transmissions ","title":"Are You Avoiding The Work?","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":141,"description":"An observation I’ve made in a growing number of people consuming content about attachment,\ntrauma bonding, codependency, and relationship healing. \n\nEven MY content.\n“I listen to their relationship podcast.” \n“I’ve read all the books on attachment.” \n“I binge-watch your YouTube videos.”\nThere’s a growing trend where people think that watching videos, reading books, \nand listening to podcasts equates to doing their attachment healing work.\nBut here's the truth:\nWhile consuming content can provide temporary relief from the pain associated with trauma, \nespecially when it validates your experiences (like labeling your partner as a “narcissist”), \n\nIT OFTEN SERVES AS A COVERT AVOIDANCE STRATEGY THAT DELAYS THE OUTCOMES YOU WANT:\n\nA secure, magnetic connection where you feel confident and connected, where the home is a sanctuary, \nand you’re not riddled with relationship anxiety.\n\nIn the past three months, \nI’ve consulted with not one, but TWO psychotherapists with degrees in Counseling Psychology. \nOne, an anxious attached individual, admitted she couldn't work through her own anxious attachments in relationships. \nThe other struggled to recover from a sense of betrayal after her husband cheated.\nDespite their intelligence and ability to diagnose and label mental disorders, \nthey both confessed that while they had all the INFORMATION on what was happening…\nand they could see their behaviors \nand acknowledge how problematic they’ve been to having success in the intimacy department, \ntheir training didn’t help them EMBODY the work of authentic relating, \nand they didn’t possess the SKILLS of becoming RESPONSIVE rather than REACTIVE to their triggers, \nand they had no ability to regulate themselves during conflict. \n\nThey ended up pushing what they truly wanted away. \nThe first one avoided relationships altogether, \nand the second one was fed up and didn’t want her daughter exposed to the toxicity and disconnection. \nThey had ALL the information. \nWhat was missing?\n...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0BpSAOIWk835q3jn3GKBDXPaGPhJ-MM-oFHQMwR5A1Q/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMGEx/NjcxY2YyYzgyZTA2/NjQ1MTMyNmFkMWJl/MDAxZi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}