{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Trigger Proof Transmissions ","title":"Are You Avoiding The Work?","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":141,"description":"An observation I’ve made in a growing number of people consuming content about attachment,trauma bonding, codependency, and relationship healing. Even MY content.“I listen to their relationship podcast.” “I’ve read all the books on attachment.” “I binge-watch your YouTube videos.”There’s a growing trend where people think that watching videos, reading books, and listening to podcasts equates to doing their attachment healing work.But here's the truth:While consuming content can provide temporary relief from the pain associated with trauma, especially when it validates your experiences (like labeling your partner as a “narcissist”), IT OFTEN SERVES AS A COVERT AVOIDANCE STRATEGY THAT DELAYS THE OUTCOMES YOU WANT:A secure, magnetic connection where you feel confident and connected, where the home is a sanctuary, and you’re not riddled with relationship anxiety.In the past three months, I’ve consulted with not one, but TWO psychotherapists with degrees in Counseling Psychology. One, an anxious attached individual, admitted she couldn't work through her own anxious attachments in relationships. The other struggled to recover from a sense of betrayal after her husband cheated.Despite their intelligence and ability to diagnose and label mental disorders, they both confessed that while they had all the INFORMATION on what was happening…and they could see their behaviors and acknowledge how problematic they’ve been to having success in the intimacy department, their training didn’t help them EMBODY the work of authentic relating, and they didn’t possess the SKILLS of becoming RESPONSIVE rather than REACTIVE to their triggers, and they had no ability to regulate themselves during conflict. They ended up pushing what they truly wanted away. The first one avoided relationships altogether, and the second one was fed up and didn’t want her daughter exposed to the toxicity and disconnection. They had ALL the information. What was missing?Embodied somatic training. That’s why...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0BpSAOIWk835q3jn3GKBDXPaGPhJ-MM-oFHQMwR5A1Q/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMGEx/NjcxY2YyYzgyZTA2/NjQ1MTMyNmFkMWJl/MDAxZi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}