{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Secure Husband","title":"Handling Starfish Sex in The Moment","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":532,"description":"You finally have sex with your wife… but she’s quiet. Still. Emotionally checked out.\nYou wonder:\n“Does she even want me?”\n“Is this pity sex?”\n“Why does this feel worse than no sex at all?”\nIn this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk about what to do in that exact moment — when sex feels disconnected, and your mind starts to spiral.\nYou’ll learn:\n✅ Why this hurts more than you expect\n✅ What triggers the shame, anger, or sadness\n✅ How to stop letting this moment define your worth\n✅ How to stay calm and lead with strength\n✅ When and how to talk about it later — the right way\nHere’s what we cover:\nWhy this feels personal even if it’s not\nHow to notice the emotional spike without reacting\nHow to meet the younger part of you that feels rejected\nWhat it means to stay present without performing\nWhy your calm leadership shifts everything — over time\nThis episode is for men who:\n✔️ Feel confused or ashamed after “starfish” sex\n✔️ Don’t want to guilt or pressure their wives\n✔️ Want to feel strong and clear — even in hard moments\n✔️ Are tired of building their worth on her response\nYou are not broken.\nShe is not your enemy.\nAnd this moment doesn’t define your future.\nYou don’t have to collapse.\nYou can stay calm, grounded, and strong — even when connection feels out of reach.\nThat’s what The Secure Husband Process is all about.\nIf you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.\n#deadbedroom #marriage \n#sexlessmarriage\n#MarriageHelp\n#SaveYourMarriage\n#SecureHusband\n#MarriageAdvice\n#RelationshipHealing\n#SelfWorth\n#InnerChildHealing\n#MensMentalHealth\n#SelfLoveJourney\n#EmotionalHealing\n#OvercomeRejection\n#HealthyMasculinity\n#MarriageCoaching\n#StopPeoplePleasing\n#SelfGrowth\nFor informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/YJmHpXqr3wfrhL5fsdmtlNEm6ml1FboHb1lRAj0byEY/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8xM2Vj/NGY4MTMxZDhhNmE5/ZGI4YzVmMjNmZjRh/YWU4MC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}