{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Build Your Brave Career for Women in Tech","title":"You Need Brave Feedback; Not Gentle Coddling","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1647,"description":"Listen, this episode might sting a little—and that's exactly the point. If you're a woman in tech who treats feedback like a personal attack instead of career fuel, I'm talking directly to you.\nI've watched with horror as more women have become timid about giving feedback and defensive about receiving it. This pattern is quietly cutting your career growth at the knees while multiplying your stress.\nHere's what I know: You wouldn't coddle your code, your product, or your project when it needs iteration. So why are you being so precious about feedback on your own performance?\nIn this episode, I'm drawing a hard line between toxic workplace BS (which is NOT what we're discussing) and the constructive, developmental, growth-oriented feedback that is actual career generosity. The kind you need to actively seek out, receive with curiosity, and use strategically.\nHere's what I cover:\nWhy feedback is the accelerated growth engine in tech—and why your career needs the same iterative approach as your code\nThe brutal truth about how women are held to higher performance standards (backed by research since the 1970s)\nWhy your defensiveness is far more damaging than the original feedback ever was\nHow leaders are watching for your response to feedback—not your perfection\nWhy you must stop optimizing for likability and start optimizing for clarity and effectiveness\nThe mindset shift that changes everything: feedback is data, not identity\nConcrete examples of professional feedback versus unhelpful criticism\nWhy avoiding giving feedback makes you unclear and untrustworthy (not nice)\nI also share real feedback my clients recently received and how they made it mean something totally different than what was actually said.\n\nThe women who enjoy their careers and reach their goals aren't the ones who never get criticism. They're the ones who are seen improving over time—in line with their values, purpose, and boundaries.\nBravery isn't just about bold moves. It's about sitting still in a...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/ZAPWxN_LMHdnz5w5SiJOoBH806j-O4J313kixLNknDk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS84MjBi/ZTIzMzQwMDdiNjVk/MDM2OGRhODk0NDBm/Mjk4MS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}