{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Art of Spousing","title":"Secrets of Sex and Marriage with Shaunti Feldhahn","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1978,"description":"In this episode James and Lisa have a conversation with Shaunti Feldhahn, co-author of the book \"Secrets of Sex and Marriage.\" The episode tackles one of the most taboo topics in most relationships - Sex in marriage. Shaunti and her co-author, renowned sex therapist Michael Sytsma, spent three years and $120,000 on a research project involving interviewing over 5,300 people, leading to major surprises and aha moments. They identified the little things that make a big difference in making marriage sex work. The episode reveals how communication is crucial and how making people understand the differences in desire and addressing underlying issues can bring freedom and growth in a relationship. With the book designed to be read together, Shaunti believes that \"Secrets of Sex and Marriage\" can help couples understand each other better and feel validated. \"Communication is the elephant in the room - the topic we avoid because of its awkwardness. Despite having close friends, we rarely address it with them. It’s the only issue we never speak about, leading to the creation of myths and misunderstandings which guide our actions. If we don’t learn to communicate with our partners, these myths will keep us from true understanding.\" Topics discussed:- How intimacy in marriage is the least talked-about topic- Research on the little things that make a big difference in making marriage intimacy work- Communication gaps and misunderstandings and how they impact intimacy- Understanding the differences in desire- Establishing signals or cues for willingness to engage in sexual activity- The church as a safe place for difficult conversations, and the creation of a curriculum on intimacy in marriage Resources:Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage RebootSUBSCRIBE: NewsletterSupport the Podcast:patreon.com/ArtofSpousingOther episodes you'll enjoy:Practising the Art of SpousingGuest Resources:Websites: shaunti.com, secretsofsexandmarriage.comIG: @shauntifeldhahnFB: Shaunti...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/Vgv9FhcQjXcSe82B5pDPOQiAkldwb-jm4UJnjsTZ07A/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS80YThk/OTU5YmMyMzk3YmIy/YWRjMDZiMzVmZDZm/ZmU1OS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}