{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"What Works","title":"EP 342: Getting Help Before The Ish Hits The Fan with Shulamit Ber Levtov","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3595,"description":"\n\n\n\n\nIn This Episode:\n\n\n\n* How mindset & resilience consultant Shulamit Ber Levtov became interested in the mental health challenges women face in entrepreneurship* Why she took a month off from work to prevent experiencing a full burnout last year* The methods she uses to identify what she needs and how she’s feeling* Why she always starts with getting her emotional support needs met first* How she crafts clear boundaries and direct communication about what she really needs\n\n\n\n\n\nWhen was the last time you asked for help?\n\n\n\nThe last time you tried to solve a problem by asking for guidance instead of throwing yourself into Google? The last time you told someone about something that was really weighing on you, not looking for answers but just reaching out for empathy and understanding?\n\n\n\nI can’t remember the last time I did. So if you’re having a hard time picturing it, I’m right there with you.\n\n\n\nI’ve been my identity around being the one with the answers, the one who has it all together.\n\n\n\nOf course, much of that has been a mask for how utterly out of place and clueless I feel most of the time.\n\n\n\nThe more I can present myself as a smart, successful, and altogether resourceful leader the less likely I am to consciously worry about being rejected.\n\n\n\nToday, we’re talking about cultivating emotional resilience and accessing support as a small business owner.\n\n\n\nIn their book, Burnout, Drs Emily and Amelia Nagoski term the collection of symptoms we face as the ones who have to have it all together as Human Giver Syndrome.\n\n\n\nThe “human giver” idea comes from philosopher Kate Manne who uses it to make a distinction between the expectations put on women, along with people of color, queer people, immigrants, and other marginalized groups, and the expectations put on white men. Human givers are the people who human beings rely on for moral support, emotional labor, admiration, attention, and care.\n\n\n\nThe Nagoskis suggest that human givers who give and give without...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/AmfGeDL96-fhMaeOcqmX7TK_eWrvTLco6OJj2QpZtZI/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS80NGUx/OWY5ZDg1M2E5MmU3/ZjEwOWVmNDM3MWVh/ZjZlOS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}