{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Handsome Hour","title":"Episode 19 - Don't Be Horrible","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":4149,"description":"This week on The Handsome Hour, Wes, Cody, and Stony attempt to write a dating constitution and get stuck litigating it's very first commandment: Don't be horrible. Is that actionable moral guidance, a useless tautology, or exactly the sign everyone in modern dating needs tapped directly in front of their face?\nBefore they can settle that question, Wes launches the show's first pledge drive with the help of new in-studio producer Rael. What follows is an impressively unsuccessful attempt to raise money for the Starfish Project, establish goodwill with women, explain human trafficking, and promote a second \"sponsor\" devoted to duck hunting and federal easement regulations.\nEventually, Cody proposes that \"Don't be horrible\" should become Rule Number 1 of the Handsome Hour Ten Commandments. Stony objects: sometimes the world needs a good horrible person to stop a bad horrible person. If someone blasts music on the subway, perhaps smashing the speaker would technically be horrible -- but also make civilization better. The guys debate cooperation, retaliation, virtue, blind spots, and whether the more useful rule might simply be: Remember that you're the problem.\nThat leads to Commandment No. 2 -- or at least a potential one: Don't be transactional. Stop treating romance like a vending machine where you insert dinners, favors, and strategic kindness until sex falls out. Do things because you genuinely want to improve another person's life, not because you're secretly maintaining an internal ledger. Naturally, this lesson arrives immediately after Wes admits the charity drive is partly intended to make women like the show.\nThen the guys turn their attention to Rael, who reportedly thinks publicly committing to a girlfriend is \"gay\" and \"low testosterone.\" What begins as big-brother dating advice becomes an even deeper conversation about freedom, responsibility, and Type Two fun. Everything meaningful -- children, marriage, employees, houses, difficult accomplishments...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/QmmW8Li3th_UedzbxY1jVGiEbIxvnsw__3uzErTkInM/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8xODgw/ODcyZDQ0OWI4ZWNl/YmZhYWEyZTA5NWFi/YjdkNy5QTkc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}