{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Refrigerator Moms","title":"How to Handle Depression as an Autism Parent with Dr. Scott Eilers","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3366,"description":"Dr. Scott Eilers, known online as the Depression Doctor, joins Julianna Scott and Kelley Jensen to unpack the tools he built after living through a decade of severe depression himself. The conversation covers why shame loses power the moment it's spoken aloud, why platitudes like \"you don't get more than you can handle\" fall flat, and why contentment, not happiness, may be the more sustainable goal for parents navigating chronic stress. Dr. Eilers also shares how becoming a special needs parent forced him to refocus his time and energy, and offers a framework for deciding how much access anyone gets into your life.\nKey takeaways:\nShame shrinks when shared; keeping it hidden means only your harshest critic (you) gets a vote\nPlatitudes fail because they overshoot; acknowledging reality works better than forcing positivity\nConsider the source, both on social media and inside your own head, before absorbing criticism\nSpecial needs parenting often forces a \"KonMari-style\" refocusing of time, energy and relationships\nNo two people's parenting can be scientifically compared; there is no experimental control\nContentment, not happiness, is the more sustainable emotional target on hard days\nImpulsivity often comes down to sleep, food, movement and caffeine, not willpower\nNot all anxiety is pathological; some of it is a rational response to real circumstances\nGoing no contact with family can be warranted, but boundaries should track a person's actual behavior, not their title\nShifting from consumption to creation, even small acts like cooking or a walk, changes how a hard day feels\nResources Mentioned in This Episode:\nWhen Everything Is Burning by Dr. Scott Eilers, his book written for people dealing with chronic, deep seated depression, discussed throughout the episode as the source of several frameworks covered.\nhttps://www.drscotteilers.com/resources/for-when-everything-is-burning-book\n\nThe Psychology of Depression and Anxiety, Dr. Eilers' podcast, mentioned as part of...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/HulBGQUSL2z8d_6F6RH17faDl04BfOUOawVExctAmvs/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS83OWUz/Yjk2Nzk5MWE4NTRh/Y2FkMDcxZGU0MmU4/NDkwNS5qcGVn.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}