{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"How's Your Ma Podcast","title":"How's Your Ma: Episode 12","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2349,"description":"This week, Orla and Leanne discuss domestic violence and abuse. Leanne is an Outreach, Prevention & Training Manager at a domestic violence service in South Dublin, and brings her frontline experience to a raw, wide-ranging conversation about what abuse actually looks like — physical, psychological, financial, digital — how it hides in plain sight, why survivors stay, and what it really takes to leave.Together they walk through the statistics (1 in 3 women and 1 in 7 men affected), the intergenerational cycle of trauma, the exhausting reality of hypervigilance and \"walking on eggshells,\" and the practical side of safety planning and support services. They also get into how modern dating — situationships, open relationships, age-gap relationships — is reshaping what abuse and healthy boundaries even look like today. It's a heavy topic handled with honesty, humor, and care, ending with a reminder: don't live with it alone, help is out there.\nContent note: This episode discusses domestic violence, abuse, and trauma in detail. Listener discretion advised.Timecodes:00:00 – Intro: this week's topic is domestic violence; meet Leanne00:38 – The many ways women reach out (helpline, refuge, WhatsApp, email)01:32 – The stats: 1 in 3 women, 1 in 7 men02:27 – Spotting the signs — a real-life example on a bus03:27 – Internal coping and normalized abuse from childhood04:19 – \"It was just a slap\" — normalization passed down from parents05:06 – How people first reach out for help06:03 – Living in chronic fear and constant risk-assessment06:53 – Survival mode and hypervigilance after leaving07:14 – Abuse affects every age group07:41 – The 2014 study: relationships starting at 15, abuse lasting 20.5 years08:42 – Culture, religion, and family \"tradition\" shaping the conversation09:08 – Breaking the cycle — \"boulders vs. pebbles\" across generations10:39 – Talking success stories12:26 – Case study: a couple with clashing attachment styles14:14 – Learned behavior and generational...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/FUVDSkfVPC0QV4Qius2XwJXiLtOKT4vb9TebidaGyrI/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9mZGQ1/YmQ5MjYyMGQwMjhi/YTM0MTRiNDY1OTY1/MDIxMi5qcGVn.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}