{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs","title":"535: How to Set Boundaries Without Building Walls with Debbie Causey","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1609,"description":"Boundaries can feel uncomfortable, but they’re essential for healthy relationships! Counsellor Debbie Causey joins Karen and Emily today to explain what healthy boundaries actually look like, how over-functioning hurts the people we’re trying to help, and how to know when it’s time to say no. If boundaries are hard for you, you’ll walk away with practical tools, including how to start with a few “baby nos” to protect your relationships without building walls.\nEpisode Recap:\nWhy are boundaries a universal struggle? (2:40)\nHealthy boundaries aren’t a wall, they’re a fence with a gate (4:11)\nWe need to learn the difference between a burden and a backpack (6:45)\nHow can I tell if I have a boundary issue with someone else? (10:54)\nOver-functioning teaches people to be lazy and steals their confidence (14:15)\nWhat's the difference between setting a boundary and just avoiding people? (16:00)\nGet someone objective in the situation if you need to (22:36)\nPractice saying “ baby” nos (23:31)\n\nScripture: Galatians 6:2-5 (NIV) \n“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load.”\n\nDiscussion Questions:\nIs there a relationship where you’re carrying someone else’s “backpack”? What would it look like to hand that responsibility back to them?\nWhere are you over-functioning for someone in a way that may actually be keeping them from growing?\nWhat’s one “baby no” you need to practice saying this week? What makes that ‘no’ difficult for you?\n\nResources:\nNeed more on Boundaries with your kids ? Listen to episode 494! \nPick up a copy of Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & John Townsend\nReach out to have Karen come speak in your community.\n\nWant More of This Conversation?\nDuring Wire Talk+, Debbie shares a...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/Jy0IgajJjPa1_KW9uYlwasPQsFFQYV-pgFRYgWGtXog/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS82MTYy/YWEyYjMxMWRlMGJk/ZDhlOGI2YzlkMmQ2/ODY0NS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}