{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People","title":"Over the Fence: High Conflict Neighbor Disputes","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1334,"description":"Keeping the Peace with High Conflict Neighbors\nIn this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy tackle strategies for dealing with turbulent neighbor relationships driven by high conflict personalities.\nResponding to False Allegations Between Neighbors\nThe episode opens with a listener question about two neighbors targeting each other – one with possible borderline/narcissistic traits and the other with paranoid, histrionic, and antisocial tendencies. Bill emphasizes not diagnosing anyone but notes these likely contribute to the conflict.\n\nHe recommends consulting a lawyer about legal options and avoiding engagement with false accusations. Megan adds using empathy, attention, and respect (EAR) statements can help calm tensions. They discuss cautiously recruiting an ally from the other family to encourage reasonableness.\n\nUsing Mediation with High Conflict Disputes\nAnother listener asks about using mediation with high-conflict disputes. Bill draws on his mediation experience and explains a specialized structure and process often helps settle these cases. Neutrality or education on expectations can be effective. Agreements made directly tend to have higher compliance.\n\nYou may be wondering:\nHow to respond to false allegations from a neighbor?\nWhen is it appropriate to involve a lawyer?\nCan mediation work with high conflict people?\nWhat is the best mediator approach?\nHow to identify and engage a helpful ally?\nKey Takeaways:\nDon’t engage in arguments with hostile neighbors\nConsult lawyers cautiously about legal options\nEmpathy and calm responses can ease tensions\nSpecially designed mediation can settle many disputes\nParticipation increases commitment to agreements\nBill and Megan share proven techniques to reduce the drama and damage caused by high conflict neighbors. Learn subtle but powerful strategies to reclaim your peace of mind.\nLinks & Other Notes:\nAUDIOManaging High Conflict People in Neighbor Disputes\nBOOKSMediating High Conflict...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/mMyRt1KE9ifhcy6s5OCZZIHSa3HFTTLMyzXMa0kp8z4/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzMzMTkxLzE2NjA0/MTU5MjAtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}