{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Dad Manual","title":"Ep 16: What Your Kids Learn When You're Not Looking","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2139,"description":"Your kids are watching everything you do — and learning from none of what you say.Henry Poole — creative entrepreneur, father of two grown sons, and one of the most thoughtful men Tony Cooper knows — sits down for a deep, honest conversation about what it really means to parent with intention. From discovering the emotion of anger in his 40s to forgiving his father in a therapist's office before his first son was even born, Henry's path to conscious fatherhood is unlike anything you've heard before.Key Takeaways:Kids learn from behavior, not words — if you tell them not to hit while hitting them, you've already lost the lessonAnger isn't a broken emotion — it's lightning, natural and necessary, and learning to express it honestly changed Henry's entire family dynamicForgiving your own father before you become a father may be the single most powerful thing you can doOvercorrecting away from your parents' style can create its own set of problems — resilience requires some rough edgesComing from two very different cultural and religious backgrounds creates both conflict and extraordinary perspectiveThe \"strict father / nurturing mother\" archetypes are deeper than we think — and when one partner shifts, the other often followsSeeing your child as frozen in a negative state of being actually generates that state — the way you see your child shapes who they becomeUnconditional love isn't just a feeling, it's a way of seeing — and it may be the most important gift a parent can giveBeing openly a work in progress in front of your kids gives them permission to be one tooThe goal isn't to raise perfect kids — it's to model the kind of growth they'll carry for the rest of their liveIf you enjoyed The Dad Manual, leave us a rating on your podcast app! If you loved it, share this episode with a Dad! Send your questions to dadmanualpodcast@gmail.com.Connect with Tony Cooper: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetonycooper/","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/RhesufeLfq-KH7W3Ni1tcYfxGDlnUQ1BXbcDk7-CgJk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8zMWVh/NTk0NDViNmUyYWZl/Zjk4NDk3NWVjMWEy/NWYxYi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}