{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Brad Carr Podcast","title":"How to Spot Sincere Love Vs. Dark Manipulation - Dr Harry Reis","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/7e106385\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":4443,"description":"Psychological insights and actionable strategies direct to your inbox: https://bradcarr.transistor.fm/newsletter\n00:00 In This Episode\n00:35 Introducing Dr. Harry Reis\n01:08 The Signs That You Are Loved\n02:02 Love Causing Sadness\n02:43 The Key to Happiness\n03:38 The Answer to Pain and Being Unloved\n04:57 Writing with Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky\n05:46 Why Relationships Must Come First\n07:38 The Happiest Countries (Not the USA)\n08:55 Feeling Unloved Vs. Feeling Lonely\n10:55 Healing the Pain of Loneliness\n11:44 Harry's Pioneering Relationship Research\n14:44 Where to Look for Love\n17:15 Red Flags In Finding Love\n19:44 Relationships With Dangerous People\n24:02 What to Share With People\n25:50 How to Listen Well. Attention Is Key.\n28:24 How to Learn to Connect With People\n30:30 The Cost of Talking With AI Chatbots\n31:50 The Seesaw: Mutual Support\n34:42 Gut Feelings and Trust\n37:00 Gut Feelings and Breaking Up\n38:22 Gut Feelings and Implicit Cognition\n42:09 Gut Feelings and Love at First Sight\n43:39 Multiplicity: We've All Done Bad Things\n48:09 Distressed Marriages and Feeling Loved\n48:51 How Much Should We Tolerate In a Relationship?\n51:33 Cognitive Dissonance and Feeling Loved\n54:02 Sincere Apologies and Lying\n59:57 How to Recognize a Liar\n57:23 Finding Love After Pain\n59:14 The Cost of Being Alone\n1:00:21 How to Find Love After a Loss\n1:02:32 Reappraisal: The Cure for Rumination\n1:05:45 Don't Give Up On Relationships\n1:07:33 The Risk and Pain of Divorce\n1:08:35 Put Away Your Phone\n1:10:11 Love Languages\n1:11:38 find Dr Harry Reis online\n1:12:28 Teaching the World About Relationships\n1:13:47 Further Recommendations\nRESOURCES\nInterview with Jennifer R. Young: https://youtu.be/i3wk1RdfHiI\nHarry Reis's book: https://amzn.to/4ycIgVC\nBrad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq\n🔔 SUBSCRIBE to help get more guests on the show: https://goo.gl/uEAeNp\nDr. Harry Reis explains how to distinguish genuine love from manipulation tactics such as love-bombing and deception that ultimately...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/LwS-rxgRJgsV_zmNrspVoEiUnK0DFgimWiDVS6K0GGE/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9iYjZm/MmQ1NzVjMzQ0MGVl/YmFiNjczYWNhYzIw/MDUxYi5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}