{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast","title":"Attachment Styles — And What They're Doing to Your Sex Life","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3315,"description":"Why do you feel anxious after really good sex? Why does your partner pull away right when things get close? Why does a dry spell feel like evidence that the relationship is falling apart — even when you know logically that it isn't?\nThe answer is almost always attachment.\nIn Episode 33, Scott and Brittney complete their personality framework trilogy — Love Languages, Enneagram, and now attachment styles — with the one that goes deepest. Attachment theory doesn't describe a preference. It describes your nervous system's blueprint for closeness, developed in childhood and running automatically in every intimate moment of your adult life.\nThey cover all four attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized — with specific, honest translations for what each one looks like in the bedroom, what it needs from a partner, where it gets in its own way, and which Coelle session is matched to its specific needs. Then they get personal about their own styles and what understanding them changed in their relationship.\n\nIn this episode:\nWhat attachment theory is and why it's more relevant to your sex life than any other framework\nWhy many \"libido problems\" are actually attachment cycles under stress\nSecure attachment — what it looks like and why it still requires intention\nAnxious attachment — why sex becomes reassurance-seeking and what the aftermath feels like\nAvoidant attachment — why the post-sex pull-away isn't rejection, even though it feels exactly like it\nDisorganized attachment — the push-pull of wanting closeness and fearing it simultaneously\nThe anxious-avoidant pairing — the pursue-withdraw cycle explained\nA Coelle session recommendation for each attachment style\nScott & Brittney share their styles — and what they wish they'd understood earlier\nWhat to do with this information without turning it into a diagnosis or an excuse\nAttachment Style Quiz: https://traumasolutions.com/attachment-styles-quiz/ (not affiliated in any way)\nRemember — intimacy is not...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/Nobw__SsL1MHaP84O1DHUYOUl24hhbPPKmJ36fCapGw/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS84MGQ4/ZmYxZjRjMDkxMDhk/NTliNzU5OTZhOGMz/ZDhmZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}