{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Plenty with Kate Northrup","title":"171. Why the Spark Fades in Long-Term Relationships — and the One Practice That Brings Desire Back with Stefanos Sifandos","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3532,"description":"What if your most challenging relationships are also your greatest opportunity for healing?\nIn this deeply personal conversation, Kate Northrup sits down with relationship coach and author Stefanos Sifandos to explore how our romantic relationships become mirrors for the wounds, patterns, and beliefs we've carried since childhood. Together, they discuss why trauma is inherently relational, how polarity creates intimacy, and why true healing happens not in isolation, but through safe, connected relationships.\nStefanos opens up about his marriage to Christine Hassler, the transformative experience of becoming a father, and how parenting exposed perfectionism, control, and parts of himself he didn't know still needed healing. Kate and Stefanos also explore masculine and feminine dynamics, nervous system safety, emotional responsibility, and what it really means to love without losing yourself.\nWhether you're navigating a relationship, healing from one, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of yourself, this episode offers a compassionate perspective on how intimacy can become a pathway to profound personal and spiritual growth.\n“Most wounds are relational, so they have to be healed in a relational context.”  - Stefanos Sifandos\n🎤 Let’s Dive into the Good Stuff on Plenty 🎤\n00:00 Trauma & Relational Healing\n01:40 Meeting Stefanos Sifandos\n09:27 A Full-Circle Friendship Story\n16:28 Becoming a Father\n24:12 Relationships as Mirrors\n33:41 Polarity & Intimacy\n43:05 Healing Through Partnership\n53:18 Masculine & Feminine Dynamics\nLinks and Resources:\nKate's Instagram\nKeira's Workshop\nConnect with Stefanos Sifandos:\nWebsite\nInstagram\n✨ What If the Book You’re Meant to Write Won’t Leave You Alone?\nNot a book for credibility.\nNot a book because it’s good for business.\nThe one that keeps tapping you on the shoulder, asking to be written.\nKeira Brinton’s free workshop, The Author Threshold, is for leaders who know there’s a message inside them that deserves a more permanent...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/o03JRta_QRrWYpVnGEniH9ofqOD9uyABk7kkXvT0B_E/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzQ1MzMzLzE2OTUz/ODkwNzQtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}