{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"How Does She Do It?","title":"How Couples Grow Apart—and Find Their Way Back to Each Other | Resentment, Conflict & Reconnection with Kameran Al-Areqi","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3515,"description":"You married your spouse years ago. But do you still know the person they are today?\n\nMarriage coach, Kameran Al-Areqi, says many couples continue relating to old versions of each other while wondering why they feel increasingly disconnected.\nIn this episode of How Does She Do It?, we talk about what sits underneath repeated arguments, how expectations inherited from childhood enter marriage without our realizing it, and why curiosity can take a conversation somewhere defensiveness never will.\nKameran says “the problem is never the problem.” The fight about money may actually be about security, respect or power. The argument about the phone may be about loneliness. And the thing your spouse needed ten years ago may not be what makes them feel loved today.\nWe also talk about personal growth inside marriage, emotional needs, healthier conflict and the importance of continuing to learn the person you chose.\nBecause staying married is not only about remembering why you fell in love.\nIt is also about remaining curious about who both of you are becoming.\nWhat You’ll Hear:\nWhy “the problem is never the problem.” Kameran explains why an argument about money, the phone, chores or time may actually be pointing to something deeper, and we explore what might really be underneath the conflict.\nHow the marriage you grew up watching can quietly shape the one you build. We talk about the expectations, beliefs and definitions of love we carry from childhood, often without realizing how much they influence what we expect from a spouse.\nWhy your spouse may need to be loved differently than they did five or ten years ago. Children, careers, responsibilities and life experience change us, which means care, support, respect and connection may look different now.\nHow slowing an argument down can change what happens next. We talk about pausing, checking what the other person actually heard, asking better questions and recognizing when continuing the argument is only creating more damage....","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/fBbtiFUFeYpYnvya2DhqAm2O6ty0INAzkt-vvAIICTE/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS80M2Nh/YjZjZTBiNTI1ZDY1/ODcyN2VmYmQ4NDMw/NTJiOS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}