{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Dad Manual","title":"Ep 37: Breaking Generational Trauma With Chris Lee","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3264,"description":"Tony Cooper sits down with Chris Lee, a coach, trainer, and speaker who has spent his career helping people break the beliefs that quietly run their lives, to talk about where generational trauma actually starts and how dads can be the ones who finally stop it. They dig into what happens the moment your kid pushes a button: why the reaction fires before you can think, and why the fix isn't suppressing it but learning to create a space between what happens and how you respond.\nChris breaks down his idea of \"response-ability,\" the two fears every child is actually born with (falling and loud noises), and how every other fear in your life got handed to you by someone else's playbook. The conversation also covers why kids process emotion so honestly compared to adults, how the way a dad treats a mom shapes a child's emotional environment long before the child can remember it, and a practical tool for couples: building a family vision with non-negotiables that protect the home you're creating.\n\nThis is a conversation about interrupting the pattern early, doing the work before the damage gets passed down, and choosing who you want to be instead of defaulting to who you were taught to be. If you enjoyed The Dad Manual, please like and subscribe. If you loved it, share this episode with a Dad! Send your questions to dadmanualpodcast@gmail.com.\n\n00:00 Cold open: hot heads, clarity\n00:29 Meet Chris Lee, godfather\n02:03 What being a godfather means\n05:13 What is emotional intelligence?\n07:26 Responsibility as response-ability\n08:49 The Will Smith Oscars example\n11:43 The power of a deep breath\n16:28 Where trauma actually comes from\n17:07 The two fears we're born with\n21:31 Why we forget our own divinity\n24:33 Pretending vs. choosing confidence\n27:33 The subliminal resentment of a baby\n30:14 Why kids process emotion honestly\n34:18 Feeling inadequate as a new dad\n36:14 How treating mom affects the child\n38:06 Building a family vision\n40:40 Becoming your parents unconsciously...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/RhesufeLfq-KH7W3Ni1tcYfxGDlnUQ1BXbcDk7-CgJk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8zMWVh/NTk0NDViNmUyYWZl/Zjk4NDk3NWVjMWEy/NWYxYi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}