{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Trigger Proof Transmissions ","title":"My Wife Left Me. Here's Why I Thank Her Now","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":786,"description":"I asked him what was different now–\n(After the somatic work, \nafter facing what he'd been avoiding his whole life.)\n\n\"I believe in myself now. \nI feel stronger inside. I love myself.\"\nHe'd never been able to say that before.\n\nBut here's what got me:\n\nHis daughter is 11.\nBefore the work, \nif you asked her to look in the mirror and say \n\"I love you\" to herself–\nShe'd start crying.\n\nHis son, 9 years old–\nSame thing.\n\nNow–\nThey can both look in the mirror and say it.\nAnd they feel it.\n\nHis wife had enough.\nAfter years of trying to connect with a man \nwho was there but not really there–\nWho'd escape to his garage, his tools, \nanywhere but the discomfort of being present–\nShe initiated the separation.\n\n70% of divorces are initiated by women.\nThe reason is consistent–\n\nNot because the love disappeared,\nbut because they've been trying to reach someone \nwho's been dissociated from themselves for years.\n\nHe thought he was always right.\nEveryone else was wrong.\n(Classic avoidant shutdown.)\n\nThe wakeup call came when she said:\n\"I'm done. I'm moving out.\"\n\nThat's when he reached out.\nThe Overview Experience was where we began–\n\nA meditation where he finally connected \nwith the younger parts of himself that he'd abandoned.\n\nHe started shaking.\nTrembling.\nReleasing decades of held emotion.\n\n\"I've never had that connection before.\"\n\nSix months later:\nHis kids are excelling in school, sports, life.\n\nHe told me what neighbors have been noticing–\n\n\"The kids are wanting to hang out with me now. \nIt's amazing.\"\nHe got a promotion and a raise at work.\n(Leadership emerges when you're no longer at war with yourself.)\n\nHe went from angry at his ex to grateful–\n\"I love her for what she did. \nEverything she's done has been amazing.\"\n\nThey're co-parenting peacefully now.\n\nThe best part–\n\"If I know how to connect with me, \nI know how to connect with them.\"\n\nHis kids learned by watching him heal.\nThey didn't need therapy.\nThey didn't need special programs.\n\nThey needed a dad who could look in...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0BpSAOIWk835q3jn3GKBDXPaGPhJ-MM-oFHQMwR5A1Q/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMGEx/NjcxY2YyYzgyZTA2/NjQ1MTMyNmFkMWJl/MDAxZi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}