{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Unrefined Podcast .com","title":"E215 The Cost of Forgiveness","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3595,"description":"Forgiveness is one of the most necessary parts of the Christian life, but it is also one of the most misunderstood. In this episode, Brandon and Sandy sit down with Dr. Everett Worthington to talk about what forgiveness actually is, what it is not, and why reconciliation is something different altogether. Dr. Worthington shares the tragic story of his mother’s murder and how that moment forced him to live out the very forgiveness he had spent years studying and teaching. The conversation explores decisional forgiveness, emotional forgiveness, rumination, resentment, justice, boundaries, and what happens inside us when unforgiveness takes root. Dr. Worthington also walks through his REACH model and offers practical help for those who feel stuck in pain, anger, or grief. This is a powerful, honest, and hope-filled conversation for anyone wrestling with what it means to forgive without pretending the wound never happened.\nEv's Book https://a.co/d/01UMgKXo\nEv's Website -https://www.evworthington-forgiveness.com/\nTimestamps00:08 Forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same thing00:28 Welcome to the Unrefined Podcast00:51 Introducing Dr. Everett Worthington and the topic of forgiveness03:13 Dr. Worthington’s early work studying forgiveness05:36 The murder of Dr. Worthington’s mother07:41 Wrestling with anger after tragedy10:06 Realizing he had to face forgiveness personally12:29 Forgiveness does not erase justice14:56 Defining forgiveness through stress and coping17:12 Understanding the injustice gap19:37 Different biblical ways to respond to injustice21:57 Decisional forgiveness and emotional forgiveness24:17 Restraint, the brain, and choosing not to retaliate26:41 The difference between forgiveness and reconciliation29:00 Boundaries, toxic relationships, and reconciliation30:22 What it means to love your enemy32:50 The REACH model of forgiveness35:12 Giving the gift of forgiveness37:32 When hurt comes back after forgiving39:51 Anger, fear, and the body’s...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/SEi08kDnmS3ucXi-RfuKquACTpfh-Kjws-EHkJR3Eps/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9mYjhk/MGY5YjJhYTVlZGM1/ZDZhOWQ0MzNiMjIx/NWE4Yi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}