{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Rooted In Relationship: when managing behavior isn't working","title":"Why Your Child Isn't Broken (And Neither Are You)","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1303,"description":"What if the challenging behavior you're seeing isn't something to fix, but something to understand?\nIn this episode, I'm sharing the framework that completely changed how I parent and coach families - and it has nothing to do with new strategies or discipline techniques.\nWhen managing behavior isn't working, it's usually because we're asking the wrong question. Instead of \"What do I DO?\" we need to ask \"What do I SEE?\"\nI'll walk you through the three essential lenses for seeing your child:\nAttachment - Are they resting in connection or desperately pursuing it?\nVulnerability - What feelings are too scary to show you?\nMaturation - What capacity just hasn't ripened yet?\nThrough real coaching stories (including one about sibling meanness that shifted in just two weeks), you'll learn how changing what you see naturally changes how you respond - without trying harder or doing more.\nThis episode is for you if:\nYou feel like you've tried everything and nothing's working\nYou're exhausted from managing behavior all day long\nYou wonder if something is \"wrong\" with your child (or you)\nYou want to understand what's really driving the challenging behavior\nYour child isn't broken. They're not bad. They're just trying to tell you something - and this episode will help you understand what that is.\n\nKey Takeaways:\n✨ The secret to parenting isn't in what you DO, it's in how you SEE your child\n ✨ Misbehavior is often just immature pursuit of connection\n ✨ Defended hearts can't grow - children need to feel vulnerable feelings\n ✨ You can't discipline someone into developmental maturity\n ✨ One shift in seeing can create more change than a hundred strategies\n\nResources Mentioned:\nDr. Gordon Neufeld & the Neufeld Institute\nKim John Payne & Simplicity Parenting\nPCI Parent Coaching\n\nConnect with Raelee:\nWebsite: innerlifeparenting.com\nLead Parent Coach at heypoppins.com\n\nAction Step:\nChoose ONE challenging behavior your child is showing right now. Look at it through all three lenses...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/9R4PYs7FUpV1woIuMsJNyKEqrHLi9U371Wg7n-Svj98/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS84MmY4/MjQ0N2NhZTY2MDVh/YzBiMzNjODY1ZDA2/M2NhNy5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}