{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Words in the Wilderness","title":"Why do you choose a heart that’s scarred? Love, Healing, and Self-Discovery with Dufflyn Lammers, author of 'You Had Me At Bonjour'","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/89703ab2\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3107,"description":"In this episode, Dufflyn Lammers shares her journey toward embracing vulnerability, love, and authenticity through her personal stories, writing, and spiritual reflection. We discuss stories from her book You Had Me At Bonjour as she shares how she has navigated complex relationships, self-acceptance, and attachment healing, all with a beguiling humour and lightness.\nWhat we cover\n \nThe power of self-love and loving others unconditionally, even amidst scars and imperfections \nHow cultural differences influence body image and perceptions of love\nThe importance of loving yourself as you are, without expectations or boundaries \nThe journey from insecure attachment to secure attachment\nThe role of creative practices like writing, improvisation, and meditation in healing past trauma\nNavigating vulnerability with honesty, and the bravery required to share one's truth\nThe significance of trust, boundaries, and clear communication in healthy relationships\nThe influence of early childhood experiences and family blueprint on adult relationship\n\nFollow me on Instagram: @the_therapeutic_poet\nGet my book\nCheck out my website\nJoin my Awakening To Presence course on Insight Timer\nGet my self-paced course: Permission To Feel Loneliness(Use the code TOGETHER for 10% off)\n\n00:00 – Introduction & welcome\n02:13 – Opening poem: \"I Loved Him Once\"\n04:45 – Loving someone as they are, not as you \"should\"\n06:42 – Writing as a safe space for radical honesty\n09:11 – Meeting Benjamin, early recovery, showing up for each other\n11:05 – The conversation about not wanting children\n13:33 – Clear boundaries, kindly held\n14:17 – Dufflyn: the American Love Coach in Paris\n15:04 – Attachment blueprint: mother's inconsistency, father's anger\n17:31 – The Ideal Parent Figure Protocol explained\n20:04 – Embodiment, narrative coherence, and grief\n23:17 – Addiction relapse and relational wounding\n24:27 – Acting career, approval-seeking, and improv as repair\n26:58 – Current workshops & the \"You Had Me at...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/hWOJzs9My3AEtPNBYp_3c6d2c4zfOy3xXSnAP5_vXr4/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hODZk/ZGQ3Mjk3NjJmMWE4/NjllMWZlNzVlZTEw/MjgwMi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}