{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"She Is A Leader - The Podcast for Women Creating Impact, Profit, and Peace in Their Business","title":"Why Good Intentions Keep Blowing Up in Your Face with Matthew Riven","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/8c1757f7\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2244,"description":"Have you ever tried to help and ended up the bad guy?Yvonne got kicked out of an event for giving feedback she thought was welcome. What followed was a real-time lesson in intent versus impact, the Karpman Drama Triangle, and why our best intentions sometimes cause the most damage.In this episode, Yvonne and her coach Matthew Riven break down what actually happened, where the communication ruptured, and what it looks like to stay in your adult when everything in you wants to react.If you have ever been misunderstood when you were trying to help, or spiraled over something someone said that they claim was no big deal, this one is for you.What you will take away:Why intent and impact are almost never the same thing, and what to do about itHow the drama triangle shows up in business relationships without you realizing itThe difference between rescuing and helping, and why it mattersWhat it means to check out the fantasy instead of acting on itWhy drama is always optional, even when it does not feel like it--------------DISCLAIMER:This podcast is sponsored by AskYvi.com. Some links are affiliate links which means if you buy something we'll receive a small commission.--------------🌟 Meet Matthew RivenWebsite: https://stirinstitute.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthew.riven/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MatthewRivenTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matthew.riven--------------🌟Connect with Yvihttps://instagram.com/askyvihttps://www.facebook.com/AskYvi/--------------🏆 Highlights 🏆00:00 | Introduction00:35 | Why intent vs impact matters01:54 | When is it okay to offer help? Setting the stage with Matthew Riven02:31 | The full story: giving feedback and getting kicked out of an event 04:50 | The logistics problem: why unclear event locations hurt attendees07:50 | The Karpman Drama Triangle explained11:55 | Rupture and repair: what to do when communication breaks down 14:48 | Drama is optional16:53 | Intent vs impact in real life20:48 | What is a \"fantasy\" in...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/akfu7Wgndo5G-PygQYPu0QyyH8tAbWnGTAxB49FpkrI/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8wOTc5/M2Q1MmZlZjdhZjJi/YTE0MDViMWU3ZDMx/NTE1OS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}