{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Trigger Proof Transmissions ","title":"How to Break Relationship Disappointment","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":106,"description":"Travelling and meeting successful people who can crush it at work but still fall into disappointing relationship patterns– something became painfully clear.Many high achievers I speak to unconsciously get into relationships expecting their partners to resolve their self-worth issues or fill those emotional gaps they’ve been using success to hide. That “not good enough” wound that can’t be seenwhen they are on stage performing.That fairy tale we hoping for It’s often just a projected fantasy, and when reality hits — boom — The disappointment kicks in, like a kid who just realized Santa doesn’t exist.Here’s the thing: at some point, usually midlife, when we’ve been humbled by life circumstances,we get summoned to a wake-up call. The task becomes to realize that it’s not about blaming the other person anymore.It’s about taking ownership of how we show up, our reactions to our triggers that are happening within us.Emotional triggers aren’t personal attacks. They’re signals. Doorways to level up your self-awareness instead of falling back into blame.The ability to distinguish being “harmed”and being “triggered”. A big piece I love to teach: How to expand that space between stimulus and response. What we do in that gap is how we can become “trigger proof.”Whether we reflexively fight, run, or hidedetermines the quality of our relationships and leadership.Also, watch out for the fawn response — that people-pleasing trap where you ignore your own needs just to “keep the peace.”That one will sneak up on you if you’re not careful,building up a wall of resentment over time.When you develop the skill of spotting old wounds getting poked by current relationships, it becomes an invitation to pause and choose differently.At the end of the day, it’s not about finding a perfect partner to save us. It’s about using relationships as mirrors to grow into someone more emotionally solid.This is the secret of secure attachment:Trusting yourself speak your truth,because you know you’re...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0BpSAOIWk835q3jn3GKBDXPaGPhJ-MM-oFHQMwR5A1Q/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMGEx/NjcxY2YyYzgyZTA2/NjQ1MTMyNmFkMWJl/MDAxZi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}