{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Trigger Proof Transmissions ","title":"How to Break Relationship Disappointment","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":106,"description":"Travelling and meeting successful people who can crush it at work \nbut still fall into disappointing relationship patterns– \nsomething became painfully clear.\nMany high achievers I speak to unconsciously \nget into relationships expecting their partners \nto resolve their self-worth issues \nor fill those emotional gaps they’ve been using success to hide. \nThat “not good enough” wound that can’t be seen\nwhen they are on stage performing.\nThat fairy tale we hoping for It’s often just a projected fantasy, \nand when reality hits — \nboom — \nThe disappointment kicks in, \nlike a kid who just realized Santa doesn’t exist.\nHere’s the thing: \nat some point, usually midlife, \nwhen we’ve been humbled by life circumstances,\nwe get summoned to a wake-up call. \nThe task becomes to realize \nthat it’s not about blaming the other person anymore.\nIt’s about taking ownership of how we show up, \nour reactions to our triggers that are happening within us.\nEmotional triggers aren’t personal attacks. \nThey’re signals. \nDoorways to level up your self-awareness \ninstead of falling back into blame.\nThe ability to distinguish being “harmed”\nand being “triggered”. \nA big piece I love to teach: \nHow to expand that space between stimulus and response. \nWhat we do in that gap \nis how we can become “trigger proof.”\nWhether we reflexively fight, run, or hide\ndetermines the quality of our relationships and leadership.\nAlso, watch out for the fawn response — \nthat people-pleasing trap \nwhere you ignore your own needs just to “keep the peace.”\nThat one will sneak up on you if you’re not careful,\nbuilding up a wall of resentment over time.\nWhen you develop the skill of spotting old wounds \ngetting poked by current relationships, \nit becomes an invitation to pause and choose differently.\nAt the end of the day, \nit’s not about finding a perfect partner to save us. \nIt’s about using relationships as mirrors to grow \ninto someone more emotionally solid.\nThis is the secret of secure attachment:\nTrusting...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0BpSAOIWk835q3jn3GKBDXPaGPhJ-MM-oFHQMwR5A1Q/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMGEx/NjcxY2YyYzgyZTA2/NjQ1MTMyNmFkMWJl/MDAxZi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}