{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People","title":"When Grandkids Get Caught in High Conflict","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1401,"description":"In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter tackle questions from grandparents struggling to support grandchildren amidst high conflict co-parents.\n\nProtecting Kids from Raging Co-Parents\nFirst, they advise how grandparents can help shield kids from a raging, unstable parent. Recommendations include teaching emotional regulation, self-checking, and conflict management skills. Stay positive about the high conflict parent.\n\nCo-Parenting with a Difficult Ex Long-Term\nNext is guidance for co-parenting long-term with a high conflict, accusatory ex. Bill emphasizes staying calm, balanced, and solution-focused. Praise successes. Accept the limitations on your role as a grandparent.\n\nGetting an Expert Evaluation for Court\nThen Bill explains why expert testimony is critical for custody cases with a parent with tendencies like factitious disorder or personality disorders. Experts can explain the need for detailed custody orders.\n\nMinimizing Damage as Kids Grow Up\nFinally, they discuss how to minimize damage as kids mature and become more aware of a high conflict parent’s extreme behaviors. Expose kids to reasonable role models and encourage their insights.\n\nKey Takeaways:\nTeach kids emotional regulation and critical thinking\nStay positive about the high conflict parent\nGet expert testimony for custody cases\nAccept your limited role as a grandparent\nFocus on providing stability\nThe key is accepting your limited role as a grandparent, focusing on your own behavior, and providing a stabilizing presence for grandchildren. Get support from other grandparents going through similar challenges.\n\nLinks & Other Notes:\nCOURSESErasing Family Documentary with Resist/Refuse Commentary from Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.\nResistance, Refusal and the Child’s Brain\nNew Ways for Families (course for parents in divorce/separation/co-parenting)\nBOOKSDon’t Alienate the Kids: Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High-Conflict Divorce\nNew Ways for Families: Professional...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/mMyRt1KE9ifhcy6s5OCZZIHSa3HFTTLMyzXMa0kp8z4/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzMzMTkxLzE2NjA0/MTU5MjAtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}