{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Secure Husband","title":"Duty Sex / Pity Sex : Self Abandonment in a Dead Bedroom / Sexless Marriage","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1014,"description":"Duty sex can confuse many men in a sexless marriage.You wait for weeks or months. Then sex happens. But something feels off. She feels distant. She feels disengaged. You can feel it.Part of you still wants it. Part of you still accepts it. Then you feel both relief and emptiness.In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk about duty sex and pity sex and why this pattern leads to self-abandonment.In this video you will learn:• What duty sex and pity sex really mean• Why it feels better than nothing• How this pattern hooks your brain• What intermittent reinforcement does to your behavior• Why accepting duty sex lowers self-respect• How this pattern builds resentment over time• Why it also hurts your partner and the relationship• The key choice you must make to break the cycleLet’s define it clearly.Duty sex happens when your partner has sex out of:ObligationGuiltPressureAvoiding conflictThis is not desire. This is not connection.It feels like this:She goes through the motions.She feels distant.She wants it to end quickly.You notice it. You still accept it.Why?Because your brain says:“Something is better than nothing.”This creates a pattern.You feel rejected many times.Then you get sex once.Your brain gets a reward.This is called intermittent reinforcement.It keeps you stuck.You start waiting for the next moment. You accept less than you want. You begin to settle.This leads to self-abandonment.You ignore your real need:ConnectionDesireMutual interestYou tell yourself:“I will take what I can get.”Over time, this lowers your self-respect. It builds frustration. It creates distance.It also affects your partner.She feels pressure.She feels disconnected.She starts to avoid sex more.The cycle continues.Many men think this helps the relationship.It does not.Desire does not grow from obligation.Desire grows from connection, safety, and mutual interest.This leads to a key question:Do you accept duty sex?Or do you stop accepting it?Accepting it keeps the cycle...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/YJmHpXqr3wfrhL5fsdmtlNEm6ml1FboHb1lRAj0byEY/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8xM2Vj/NGY4MTMxZDhhNmE5/ZGI4YzVmMjNmZjRh/YWU4MC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}