{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Forty-fifth Street Baptist Church Weekly Sermons","title":"These Three Words (3) - Rev. Andra D. Sparks","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2836,"description":"\"These Three Words\"...7/26/20 PART 3\r\n\r\nPART 2 - https://youtu.be/KfIhHZ-ggoM\r\n\r\n\"These Three Words\"...7/26/20\r\nSermon Series:\r\n“REAL LOVE”\r\nA Relationship Rehab Series\r\n\r\nSpeaker: Pastor Sparks\r\nText: 1 Samuel 25\r\n\r\n-There are times in relationships where we simply just don’t get it right\r\n\r\n-Sometimes it’s not the act, but the discussion after the act that hurts the most. We gotta know HOW to talk to each other!\r\n\r\n-While the words “I love you” are uber important, “I am sorry” are just as important\r\n\r\n-There’s no way you can join two lives together without stepping on each other’s toes at times\r\n\r\n-In this scripture, Nabal—and a ton of people—were spared because Nabal’s wife, Abigail, stepped in and apologized to David on Nabal’s behalf, thus saving the lives of her entire household\r\n\r\n-Do you know how to apologize?\r\n\r\nWHY APOLOGIZE?\r\n* Because it’s a way of recognizing & acknowledging our wrongs, and by doing so we clear the air with others to help restore relationship\r\n-Understand though, that apologies don’t automatically equate to forgiveness. Do your part and let the other person come around when they’re ready\r\n\r\nELEMENTS OF A HEALTHY APOLOGY\r\n* Address everyone involved\r\n* This includes the innocent bystanders that heard/saw/experienced the junk you did\r\n* Avoid “if”, “but”, & “maybe”\r\n* When we use these terms, we lessen what we’ve done and put the responsibility on the other person\r\n* Admit specifically what you’ve done\r\n* Acknowledge the hurt\r\n* Empathy goes a long way; it’s hard to acknowledge hurting someone when you don’t put yourself in their shoes\r\n* Accept the consequences\r\n* The person may not forgive you...but that’s their right. Do your part and give them space to process it as they see fit\r\n* Alter your behavior\r\n* If your apology isn’t combined with changed behavior, it’s a hollow, ineffective, insincere apology\r\n* Ask for forgiveness & allow time\r\n* “I’m sorry” acknowledges behavior; “will you forgive me?” requests righting the...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/9Rumz9iaqKzN61Q3xbAHGQLPJV60Pl11sczJXQKJiY4/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzI4NjkvMTU2MTQ3/MzUwOC1hcnR3b3Jr/LmpwZw.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}