{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People","title":"Choosing Safe Partners: Understanding Red Flags in Dating with Dr. David Wexler","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/95ffccde\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2758,"description":"Identifying Red Flags: Making Safer Relationship Choices\nDr. David Wexler joins Bill Eddy to discuss his new book \"Choose Him Wisely: How to Identify a Safe Partner,\" co-authored with Dr. Donald Meichenbaum. Drawing from over 40 years of clinical experience working with relationship dynamics and domestic violence, Dr. Wexler shares crucial insights about recognizing concerning patterns early in relationships.\nUnderstanding Warning Signs\nThe conversation explores three key categories of warning signs: observed behaviors, historical factors, and gut feelings. Dr. Wexler explains how early relationship behaviors like \"love bombing,\" expressions of contempt, and patterns of entitlement can indicate potential future challenges. The discussion examines why psychological abuse often creates deeper lasting impacts than physical abuse through its systematic erosion of self-esteem and autonomy.\nQuestions Answered in This Episode\nWhat are the top three warning signs of potentially abusive relationships?\nHow can someone distinguish between healthy attention and concerning obsession?\nWhy do people sometimes ignore clear warning signs?\nWhat role does family history play in relationship patterns?\nWhen is couples therapy helpful or potentially harmful?\nKey Takeaways\nEarly relationship intensity (\"love bombing\") warrants careful evaluation\nExpressions of contempt and entitlement serve as significant red flags\nPersonal boundaries and gut feelings provide valid assessment criteria\nUnderstanding attachment patterns helps explain relationship choices\nSelf-blame often prevents recognition of concerning behaviors\nThis episode provides valuable tools for anyone navigating dating and relationships, offering practical guidance for evaluating potential partners while maintaining healthy boundaries. The discussion emphasizes empowerment through awareness rather than victim-blaming, acknowledging that while warning signs exist, many relationships can provide safe, healthy connections....","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/mMyRt1KE9ifhcy6s5OCZZIHSa3HFTTLMyzXMa0kp8z4/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzMzMTkxLzE2NjA0/MTU5MjAtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}