{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Ten Thousand Things","title":"Is Love the Drug?","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3729,"description":"Romantic Realities: Deconstructing the Romantic Love Myth\nWe dive into the misconceptions of romantic love prevalent in Western culture, drawing on a quote from You Are the One You've Been Waiting For: Applying Internal Family Systems to Intimate Relationships, by Richard Swartz. Get the book from Internal Family Systems Institute at https://ifs-institute.com/you-are-one-youve-been-waiting\nSam mentions Let's Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice podcast with Dr Morgan, yet again, but actually links to it this time. https://episodes.fm/1496034764 to find it on your podcast player of choice. But I use and recommend Podcast Guru, and Fountain, available on all phones ... anyway it's a great resource on attachment theory, and if you end up taking a workshop let Sam know how it goes.\nHere's the quote:\nOur Western culture and many of the relationship experts in it have issued us faulty maps and improper tools. We've been told that the love we need is a buried treasure, hidden in the heart of a special intimate partner. Once we find that partner, the love we crave should flow elixir like, filling our empty spaces and healing our pain. \nWe touch on:\nthe usual gossip and personal experiences, in between the wise and reflective stuff.\nhistoric context of romantic love as an ideal\nlikely role of biology in facilitating feelings of romantic love\nvs the grim reality of marriage historically, as the transfer of property between men\nromance in media\nthe unrealistic expectations it sets\nreflect on the nature of love\nlove's challenges\nthe importance of self-love \nand realistic expectations in intimate relationships\ndynamics of attachment styles\nmental health, and the balance between self-reliance and being a good partner\na broader contemplation of love's realities versus its cultural constructions\nEpisode image: courtesy of Craig - read stories and look at more great shots at https://wish-art.blog/gallery/\n\nThe show cover is from the filming of The KLF's Ancients of Mu...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/2JAtfDhLe02gUO4tZQPGVO8knrF2fc46Ed_F40DCEtk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzQzNzU5LzE2OTEw/MjExMTItYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}