{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Raising Men","title":"Benign Authority and Showing Up for the Small Moments with Geoff Owen","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2076,"description":"In this episode of Raising Men, host Shaun Dawson sits down with Geoff Owen, founder of Aligned Parenting and author of The Parenting Assumption, to test-drive his new AI parenting agent. Built on Biologically Aligned Parenting, the agent gives parents somewhere to turn when a hard moment hits at 11 o'clock at night. Shaun brings a real one. His four-year-old daughter is warm and close when it's just the two of them, then pushes him away the moment her mom is home. Geoff reads that behavior as a signal about what she needs from her environment. He explains benign authority, the steady place a parent stands no matter what a child says. Shaun also owns a moment he missed on the morning they recorded, when his daughter asked for breakfast and he answered from his office. You'll learn why rudeness doesn't always need correcting, and why answering promptly matters so much.\nKey Takeaways\nRead difficult behavior as a signal. Geoff asks what's missing from the child's environment, and what you can supply so the behavior stops being necessary.\nStand in benign authority. That's Geoff's term for the calm, settled place a parent stands no matter what a child says or does, and your child depends on you to hold it.\nYou don't have to answer every rude moment. Keep providing the right environment and carry on, and over time the behavior starts to settle.\nIt isn't your child's job to confirm you're a good parent. If a four-year-old's words wound you, ask why you've handed her that power.\nWhen your child calls and the task can wait, stop and go to them. \"In a minute\" doesn't make sense to a young child, and being close beats shouting down the stairs.\n\"It's not her job to confirm your ability and success as a parent.\" - Geoff Owen\n\n\"When a child's rude to you, you've got to do something about it. When actually you don't.\" - Geoff Owen\n\n\"The things that we want from our children, they've already got. It's all there, just like the seed.\" - Geoff Owen\n\nChapters\n00:00:00 Introducing...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/2uuITx2j-lZJp2iIhjw55xbaGtfwoyDcHPS-ELTBlxA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9mZmQ1/ZGM3MjJkNTdmODY0/MjE0MmYyYWQzMDE0/ZDhiMi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}