{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Secure Husband","title":"Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom: The Stories You Tell Yourself","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1655,"description":"If you are in a sexless marriage, the hardest part is often not the lack of sex.\nIt is what you tell yourself about it.\nYou may think:\n“She is not attracted to me.”\n“She does not love me.”\n“I have lost her.”\n“I am just a roommate.”\nThese thoughts feel real. They feel certain. But they are not always true.\nIn this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk about the stories men tell themselves in a sexless marriage and how those stories shape behavior.\nIn this video you will learn:\n• Why your mind creates stories when intimacy fades\n• How past rejection shapes your current thoughts\n• The difference between facts and meaning\n• How your thoughts drive your behavior\n• Why chasing validation often makes things worse\n• How these patterns create a cycle of disconnection\n• What may actually be happening beneath the surface\n• How to pause and question your thoughts\nHere is the key shift:\nThere is a difference between what happens and what you make it mean.\nWhat happens:\nShe turns away.\nShe says she is tired.\nShe does not respond.\nThat is fact.\nWhat you make it mean:\n“She does not want me.”\n“She is not attracted to me.”\n“I have lost her.”\nThat is the story.\nWhen you treat the story as truth, your behavior changes.\nYou may chase more.\nYou may seek approval.\nYou may shut down.\nYou may pull away.\nThese reactions often create more distance.\nThis forms a loop:\nYou feel rejected.\nYou create a story.\nThe story creates pain.\nThe pain drives behavior.\nThe behavior creates more disconnection.\nYou stay stuck in that loop.\nThe shift starts with awareness.\nAsk yourself:\n“What am I telling myself right now?”\n“Is this fact or is this my interpretation?”\nYou do not need to solve everything today.\nYou need to see clearly.\nWhen you question the story, your energy changes. You become calmer. You reduce pressure. You respond with more control.\nThat change can shift the dynamic over time.\nIf you feel stuck and want help, you can sign up for a free 30-minute consultation.\nThis is a simple...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/YJmHpXqr3wfrhL5fsdmtlNEm6ml1FboHb1lRAj0byEY/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8xM2Vj/NGY4MTMxZDhhNmE5/ZGI4YzVmMjNmZjRh/YWU4MC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}