{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Pure Victory Podcast","title":"284. Sobriety Isn’t Safety: Understanding Betrayal Trauma With Kristy Rodriguez","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3105,"description":"Welcome to episode #284! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Sobriety Isn’t Safety: Understanding Betrayal Trauma With Kristy Rodriguez\nPorn addiction doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Its impact can reach deep into a marriage, family, and especially the heart of the person who has been betrayed.\nIn this powerful conversation, we sit down with Kristy Rodriguez, Executive Director of Hope After Betrayal, to talk about betrayal trauma, rebuilding trust, the difference between sobriety and safety, and what genuine repentance actually looks like.\nKristy shares her own story of discovering her husband's pornography addiction and affair, the devastation that followed, and how God slowly brought healing and redemption to her marriage and family.\nThis conversation is heavy—but it’s also filled with hope. Your story is not beyond God's ability to redeem.\nKey Takeaways\nBetrayal is trauma. Understanding the wound matters because the right wound requires the right kind of care.\nSobriety isn't the same as safety. Stopping the behavior is important, but rebuilding trust requires becoming a person who consistently creates safety.\nRegret isn't repentance. Remorse feels bad about the wound; repentance begins picking up the bricks and rebuilding what was broken.\nThe betrayed spouse is not responsible for fixing the addiction. You aren't the cause, and you can't be the cure.\nForgiveness and healing aren't the same thing. Healing takes time, intentional work, truth, community, and often professional or ministry support.\nDon't walk through betrayal alone. Community can be a vital part of healing.\nGod's redemption is bigger than our wreckage. What sin has damaged does not have to have the final word.\nScripture Highlight\n“He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted...”\n— Isaiah 61:1\nGod doesn't minimize our wounds. He meets us in them—and He is able to bring restoration where we thought there was only loss.\nAction Steps\nIf you're the betrayed spouse:\nFind safe, informed community instead of walking...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/SM07jDQoBak0gaIu6sKyeL647WeL6VeCJcQrcxfsMAw/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMDAz/YjM3NDJjN2Y4MTI4/MzhkODQzOTllYWVm/MDVhNS5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}