{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"You Can Mentor: A Christian Youth Mentoring Podcast","title":"227. Are You Sure? // Mentoring Minute","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":343,"description":"In my line of work, I hear these three little words all the time. They come after I give something to someone usually or offer to help someone do something. My nonproof is based on Jesus’s words to his disciples: “Freely you’ve been given, freely give,” so I practice the act of remembering whatever I have is really God’s and not mine anyway.\n\nWE’RE NOT CALLED TO DO THINGS HALF-HEARTED\n\nWhen I hear someone ask, “are you sure?” it has less to do with their questioning my decisiveness or integrity and more to do with their processing a kindness. And that’s ok! But I still take a minute and usually say something like, “about ten years ago I stopped saying and doing things I wasn’t absolutely sure about!” And it’s true!\n\nNO REGRETS!\n\nWhat’s the best thing about being certain in what we do and say? We usually don’t regret our decisions. Making a choice/decision with all of who we are means we have considered the options and are comfortable moving forward. We’re not second-guessing ourselves, and there’s a wonderful freedom in that.\n--\n3 STEPS TO PRACTICING CERTAINTY IN OUR DECISIONS AND MODELING IT FOR OUR MENTEES\nListen To Jesus. He said in Matthew 5 that we’re foolish to make oaths on anything in heaven, on earth, or even on ourselves because when did we get the power to even turn a hair white or black?? Jesus instructs us to be practical. Simply say “yes” and “no” and then do what we say we’re gonna do! That should be enough.\nWait a beat. Give yourself time and space when making a decision. Don’t let your mouth get out ahead of your brain. Pray about it! Think about it. Once you feel you can make a decision that all your faculties agree on, then say yes or no.\nRemember you’re human. I very rarely go back on my word. But sometimes, I do! And man, I beat myself up about it. But when those times happen, I ask forgiveness from the person I’ve slighted. I try to make it up to them and finally, I give myself a break!\n--\nThere will be limitless opportunities for you to...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/1Xka3zDiBlBt17bxGFKaPNKtfL4x0Qw6Yce8LqvHcjw/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8wMTU4/YTYzZjc5Y2M5NjY4/MTFkZmY0NjExMzM2/Njc1MC5qcGVn.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}