{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Ten Thousand Things","title":"Bromance","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3264,"description":"Do most straight men reserve their truest love and romance for other men? Marilyn Frye thinks so, and today we consider a quote from her classic book of feminist essays The Politics of RealityWe found ourselves in agreement with Frye's observations. But we debate and detail the angles: Is heterosexual male culture (always) homoerotic?Do men save their 'best' for each other?Do many men find truer friendship with other men because they feel more comfortable around each other? Why?Is this a problem? How much so?Why would a man be 'less himself' around women? Is this because a man might be capable of friendship with women, but change his behaviour around a woman he wants to sleep with?Maybe it's heterosexual people thinking of each other as alien species that causes the problem? But does heterosexuality rely on just this, treating each other as alien and maintaining a sense of difference?Is there some anger, bitterness or frustration in the quote?Is the author a separatist feminist as Joe guessed? (Yes).What is romance anyway?Has the truth in this quote shifted over time?Is it also true about women and other women? And is it possible to judge those two realities by the same standard?Why are people on dating apps talking about polarity and being in their feminine energy? Do they just mean 'someone else sort everything out?'Are we at the point where we can begin to expect equal levels of maturity and responsibility from both men and women?\"To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom the imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence, and love they desire… those are,...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/2JAtfDhLe02gUO4tZQPGVO8knrF2fc46Ed_F40DCEtk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzQzNzU5LzE2OTEw/MjExMTItYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}