{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Beyond Your Default","title":"Victim vs. Victor Mentality: Knowing + Living the Difference ","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2891,"description":"I want to ask you a question, and I want you to answer honestly. Do you typically view life as happening to you, or do you consider yourself in control of your life, an active participant in the events that transpire?This question is the core of our discussion in this week's episode on knowing (and living) the difference between a victim's mentality and a victor's mentality in your life. The challenge, of course, is that a victor's mentality is a choice we have to make. And we don't make it once. We have to make it over and over and over, every single day — heck, sometimes multiple times a day.🌶️ Spice up your inbox: Change your life with the Beyond Your Default newsletterIn the heat of the moment, when anger or fear flashes through our bodies, it can feel easier (healing or cathartic, even!) to point at the world and yell, \"Why are you doing this to me?!\" Then there are those moments where we are truly the victims of the actions of others, where holding others accountable is not only warranted but absolutely essential as we chart a path forward. That's why, when we look to live a life beyond our norms, our confining defaults, simply defining what a victim mentality is isn't enough to step into the mindset of a victor. Becoming a victor requires you to not only possess self-awareness and a willingness to accept responsibility, you also must practice forgiveness and compassion. And that is where our conversation begins.Questions We DiscussWhat is a victim mentality vs. a victor mentality?How do you tell the difference between moments of embracing victimhood and rightfully holding others accountable?Is there such a thing as going too far AWAY from a victim mentality? Is there a time when it's OK to feel your feelings? Is there such a thing as taking too much upon your own shoulders?In that moment where you feel feelings of victimhood arising, where you're viscerally reacting to something rather than thoughtfully responding, how do you bring yourself back to center...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/fzZn9XhBUzA18it7_m76tStf-fGAgLyA6P_A27igPRI/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS85YjM0/MmM2ZmQ2YTdlZGY2/ZTQ1YzNhZDcyYjQ4/MTY5YS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}