{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Foster Friendly Podcast","title":"How Systems Fail to Address Long-Term Grief, and Loss — And What We Can Do Differently with Shenandoah Chefalo","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3532,"description":"In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, hosts Courtney Williams and Travis Vangsnes welcome Shenandoah Chefalo, an author and advocate for trauma-informed systems change. Shenandoah shares her personal journey through foster care, emphasizing the complexities of grief and loss experienced by children in the system. The conversation explores the impact of systems on grief, the challenges of hyperindependence, and the importance of empowering children with choices. Shenandoah also discusses her memoir as a tool for healing and the significance of curiosity in understanding children's behaviors. This episode highlights the need for a nuanced approach to supporting children in foster care, recognizing that healing is an ongoing journey. Shenandoah and the hosts discuss the complexities of the foster care system, emphasizing the importance of flexibility, community support, and understanding the unique needs of foster youth. They explore how rules can sometimes hinder rather than help, and the necessity of fostering connections between biological and foster families. The discussion highlights the need for adults to recognize and honor the grief that children in foster care experience, advocating for a more compassionate and understanding approach to caregiving.Pickup a copy of her book: \"The Best Bunny: The Adventures of Lil Shen (and her inspirational sidekick, Bunny Best)\"https://a.co/d/0iA5k1TmTakeawaysShenandoah emphasizes the importance of moving from survival to stability and belonging.Grief in foster care is often overlooked and not addressed by systems.Hyperindependence can hinder the ability to accept help and support.Writing a memoir can help organize fragmented experiences and promote healing.Ambiguous loss affects children in care, as they miss their previous lives.Children in foster care often feel uncomfortable in new environments.Empowering children with choices can help them feel more secure.Curiosity about children's behaviors can lead to...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/x3miLa7J-sf05o_fPWplsnxeb7VBd_DBHGb3r7Vs-YA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8yMmI1/YjI2NjlkMDg5Y2Ri/NGU0MTRiYzY0Mjcx/OTg2YS5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}