{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Trigger Proof Transmissions ","title":"Signs You’re Projecting","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":154,"description":"\"She's just doing it for attention.\" \"He's so arrogant.\" \"They think they're better than everyone else.\"If you have ever caught yourself making these snap judgments about others,consider this: Those judgments aren't really about the other person at all.What if they're actually about the parts of yourself you've been conditioned to reject?This insight might be the most transformative relationship principle I've ever discovered – and the most uncomfortable to face.It’s my favorite part of my intuitive Blind Spot Calls.I love watching people’s faces when I hold up a mirror.I call it \"The Dark Passenger\" principle.Here's how it works:From early childhood, we're taught which emotions are \"acceptable\" and which are \"bad.\" For many high-achievers, emotions like jealousy, envy, anger, or neediness were labeled as inappropriate, selfish, or even shameful.Good kids don't get jealous. Successful people don't need validation. Strong individuals don't feel insecure.So think about it– what happens to these emotions when we feel them? Do they simply disappear because we've decided they're unacceptable?Not even close.Instead, they get banished to the shadow – the unconscious repository of all the parts of ourselves we've disowned. Out of sight, but far from gone.This creates what I call our \"Dark Passenger\" – the collection of disowned emotions and traits that still affect our behavior, but from the shadows.And here's where it gets fascinating:The emotions we most strongly reject in ourselves become the exact things we most harshly judge in others.Let me share a common example:Picture a successful, accomplished woman who prides herself on her intelligence, work ethic, and character. She's built her identity around these qualities rather than physical appearance.What happens when she encounters a younger, conventionally attractive woman who seems comfortable with her sexuality and receiving attention for her looks?Often, an immediate judgment forms:\"She's just using her looks to...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0BpSAOIWk835q3jn3GKBDXPaGPhJ-MM-oFHQMwR5A1Q/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMGEx/NjcxY2YyYzgyZTA2/NjQ1MTMyNmFkMWJl/MDAxZi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}