{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Oneself","title":"Oneself - Episode 62 - A Life Beyond the Score","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":4422,"description":"In this episode of Oneself, Stephen Maher talks with Yohance Boulden, host of the Finding Gold podcast, coach, and former special operations serviceman. Hance joins Stephen to discuss what makes a good life, how personal values should shape choices, and the pressures surrounding masculinity. They challenge status-driven ideas of success and argue for presence, strong personal standards, open conversations, and the freedom to define manhood for yourself.\n\nTakeaways\nThe event starts as soon as I start getting ready.\nWhat if my identity is just whatever gets the job done?\nEverywhere you go, there you are.\nIf talking shitty to yourself would have worked, you’d have been a world champion three years ago.\nI’ve never thought about confidence. I’ve always just thought about how to get there.\nFor me, the most precious thing I have that is not my children and my family are my moments and experiences.”\nOne of the most masculine acts you can do is just be you.\nChapters\n\n00:00\nYohance Boulden’s curiosity-first approach to life\n02:10\nWhy certainty can close you off\n04:58\nWhat travel teaches about culture and perspective\n06:59\nTurning travel and retreat insights into daily practice\n13:21\nGo the Speed Limit: slow down to notice more\n16:05\nPhysical identity, constraints, and creative adaptation\n18:57\nMaking peace with yourself and uncertainty\n22:54\nChanging self-talk and redefining confidence\n28:05\nMeditation, thoughts, and the practice of letting go\n32:40\nWhat modern life may have cost us: time and community\n33:21\nHow everyday barriers keep people from showing up\n36:02\nExperiences, happiness, and redefining success\n39:05\nA favorite memory that money could not buy\n43:15\nHance’s four levels of money priorities\n45:10\nWriting to your 85-year-old future self\n47:12\nWhat younger men ask about masculinity\n49:24\nBeing yourself while holding yourself to a standard\n52:50\nAdventure requires uncertainty and effort\n54:19\nOnline masculinity content and debate culture\n58:30\nParenting, role...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/ugJaIsfOF-kSGGV-tb4mDIRp86Qs5LIQIbIJ4IIuHVo/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8wYzZm/NjE1MGQ0YTI5ZmZl/NWE1MjU5YWJjNzkw/MWU0My5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}