{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan MD","title":"182: Alex Charfen: Why Your Partner Keeps Pulling Away From You","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3805,"description":"Reserve your free spot for Kelly’s Biological Marriage event here\nMen: you might be conditioning your partner’s body to fear you.\n\nAlex Charfen is the founder of The Brotherhood, and he teaches masculine containment as a trainable discipline after his own wife told him she didn't feel seen, heard, or safe.\nAlmost every couple runs on a pattern they never name: trigger, escalation, rupture, withdrawal, repair. Alex became exceptionally good at repair, and it changed nothing. While his body told him they were making progress, her nervous system was still telling her she wasn't safe.\nHe asks the men he works with three questions. Are you stronger than your partner? More physically capable? More capable of violence? Every man answers yes to all three, and taken seriously, that answer changes what a man is responsible for in the room.\n\nI believe women are the custodians of their own experience. Alex believes men have to self-initiate first. The most useful parts of this conversation live in that friction.\nWe also get into why the car is a diagnostic for polarity, why the calmest man in the room is the most dangerous, and why regulating your nervous system gives entrepreneurs more capacity than any biohack.\nYou’ll learn:\n[0:00] Introduction\n[6:36] How an ultimatum catalyzed Alex's reclamation as a man\n[9:44] The hidden pattern in many heterosexual relationships\n[14:57] The biological reality of a woman's nervous system under threat\n[22:20] What shifted in his wife after he committed\n[25:51] Micro choices a woman makes in every moment\n[31:30] Whether Katie could have done anything to induce Alex's shift\n[39:13] The nice guy versus the man in his dark masculine\n[44:03] Dominance of oneself, not of her\n[52:35] Why successful entrepreneurs so often fail at relationships\n[1:00:28] Always putting out fires means you're probably the arsonist\n[1:02:55] Contained masculine energy as a healing force in The Brotherhood\n👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/qH2qLbMrdHamgA3Ck4DFKvBM5uaBNDv3YW_qHkjyQ7A/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS80OTYy/NWY3OTE0OGU1MmI5/M2VjMDAzZGJmODdk/MDgxNy5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}