{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast","title":"Toggling: How to Move Between Safety and Desire Without Shutting Down","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1745,"description":"Have you ever wanted closeness… but the moment things turned sexual, your body pulled back?\nOr wanted desire… but suddenly felt overwhelmed, disconnected, or numb?\nIn this episode of Do You Feel That?, we introduce the concept of toggling — the ability to move back and forth between safety and stimulation, comfort and edge, without shutting down or pushing through discomfort.\nBecause great intimacy isn’t about staying turned on the whole time.\nIt’s about knowing when to lean in — and when to soften.\nWe explore:Why desire lives in the nervous system, not just the mindHow too much safety can flatten desire — and too much intensity can overwhelm itWhy pausing doesn’t kill the mood (and often creates more desire)What toggling looks like in real-life intimacy, not theoryCommon mistakes couples make when someone needs to slow downLanguage partners can use to pause without disconnectingA simple toggle practice you can try together this weekIf you’ve ever felt like intimacy swings between “too much” and “not enough,” this episode will help you find the middle ground where connection and desire can coexist.\nCouples Intimacy Resources\nLooking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?\nDownload Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.\nFor personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.\nExplore both here:Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download\nBook a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/Nobw__SsL1MHaP84O1DHUYOUl24hhbPPKmJ36fCapGw/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS84MGQ4/ZmYxZjRjMDkxMDhk/NTliNzU5OTZhOGMz/ZDhmZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}