{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast","title":"The Initiation Gap: Why One Person Always Initiates (And How to Fix It)","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2095,"description":"If you’ve ever noticed that one of you almost always initiates intimacy — while the other rarely does — you’re not alone.\nThis dynamic is incredibly common in long-term relationships, and it’s far more about how desire works than how much someone wants their partner.\nIn this episode of Do You Feel That?, we unpack the initiation gap — why it forms, why it hurts so deeply, and how couples can rebalance intimacy without pressure, resentment, or shutdown.\nWe explore:\nWhy most couples naturally fall into an initiator/responder pattern\nThe difference between spontaneous and responsive desire (and why it matters)\nHow repeated rejection trains the nervous system to stop initiating\nWhy stress and mental load suppress desire — especially for the partner carrying more responsibility\nHow cultural scripts shape who initiates and who waits\nWhat not to do when initiation feels uneven\nPractical, science-informed ways to share responsibility for connection\nIf initiation has started to feel risky, exhausting, or emotionally loaded, this episode will help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface — and give you tools to reconnect in ways that feel safe, mutual, and genuine again.\nCouples Intimacy Resources\n\nLooking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?\n\nDownload Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.\n\nFor personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.\n\nExplore both here:\nDownload the App: https://www.coelle.app/download\nBook a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/Nobw__SsL1MHaP84O1DHUYOUl24hhbPPKmJ36fCapGw/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS84MGQ4/ZmYxZjRjMDkxMDhk/NTliNzU5OTZhOGMz/ZDhmZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}