{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Dialog","title":"1.20 / Have we confused our preferences with principles?","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2288,"description":"Before they poured the foundation on my house, they drilled 17 piers through the Texas clay to reach bedrock. Cheap houses skip the piers, and a lot of them end up with foundation problems.\nJesus said a life works the same way: hear His words and do them, and you're building your house on the rock (Matthew 7:24-27). My co-host Nick Surface asked me what I mean by \"principles over preferences,\" and this dialog is my answer.\nWhat are core values?\nThe criteria you use to make decisions. You already have them. The question is whether yours are good ones.\nWhat's the difference between a principle and a preference?\nA principle is always right, always good and always true. For me, Scripture is how I measure that. A preference is how you do something. A principle is why.\nWhy do bands, partnerships and churches split?\nMost of the time it's preferences, not principles. The Beatles agreed on the music. After Brian Epstein died, the arguments started over managers and songwriting credit.\nHow do you stay close to people with different preferences?\nLook at the fruit. My dad and I have very different preferences, but I want the fruit of his life for my kids.\nScriptures\nMatthew 7:24-27 · Matthew 7:3-5 · Jeremiah 17:9\nThinkers\nAristotle: limited goods and unlimited goods, as I use the idea here\nC.S. Lewis: wickedness is the pursuit of some good in the wrong way\nChapters\n0:00 Cold open and show intro\n0:53 What does \"principles over preferences\" mean?\n2:11 Core values are the criteria you use to decide\n3:19 Limited goods vs. unlimited goods (Aristotle)\n5:49 The house on the rock (Matthew 7)\n7:00 Why my house needed 17 piers\n9:48 Living by preferences is building on sand\n10:30 Did Yoko Ono really break up the Beatles?\n13:07 What really divides a country?\n15:37 \"The human heart is desperately wicked\" (Jeremiah)\n16:17 Compromise and the Declaration of Independence\n17:49 C.S. Lewis: wickedness is good pursued the wrong way\n20:12 Honor, humility, excellence, generosity\n21:48 All of us...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/7YsfA4gq5VzjhvmKvDET1pQqT0OM6yxv1laklKclR7g/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS83ZWZh/MTRmZDEzOWRjZGQz/Y2M2NThkNzYwOTJj/ODA4MC5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}