{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Blindsight","title":"Storytime for Grown-Ups: Who’s Safe to Listen? Bethany Joy Boring Episode 2","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/c300381f\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3710,"description":"Episode Summary\nPart Two moves from private reflection to sharing your story with someone else. Bill and Bethany cover how to choose a slice of your story, when to share, and how to assess whether a listener is safe. They model practical tactics: make the story linear by writing or recording, start imperfectly, use an “appreciation anchor” to regulate when emotions spike, and share in proportion to the relationship’s intimacy. They introduce the “Four S’s” for evaluating safe listeners (Seen, Safe, Secure, Soothing) and demonstrate how to ask for what you need (“do you want suggestions or listening?”). Exercise 2 focuses on identifying safe people and practicing gratitude with one of them.\n\nExercise 2 — Defining Safe People (on-air reference)\nPurpose: Identify people who can hold your story without judgment.\nSteps:\n• List three people you talk to most often.\n• For each, note: Do they listen without fixing? Do they respect confidentiality? Do I feel calmer afterward?\n• Rank them for emotional safety.\n• Pick one and thank them for being a safe presence.\nReflection: “What qualities make me feel safest — and how can I model them?”\n\nContact Info\nGuest: Bethany Joy Boring — Speaker, coach, group facilitator\nAftersight: aftersight.org | feedback@aftersight.org | (720) 712-8856\nProducer: Jonathan Price, Podcast & Program Producer, Aftersight — jonathan@aftersight.org\n\nShow Credits\nHost: Bill Lundgren\nGuest: Bethany Joy Boring\nSeries: Blindsight — Telling Your Story\nProduction: Aftersight Originals\nProducer: Jonathan Price\nRecording and post: Aftersight Audio Team \n\nChapter Markers\n00:00 — Cold open and setup\n02:24 — Pick a slice: what and why to share\n04:44 — Permission to start imperfectly\n06:44 — From circular thoughts to linear drafts\n09:08 — Choose a safe place to create\n11:32 — Naming emotions; IFS curiosity over control\n13:51 — You decide pace and boundaries\n16:17 — Body as protector; respecting limits\n18:29 — Perspective shifts over time\n20:16 — Imagery, low...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/A8C9JGNU5UI2p2zaKFeLOzFo1TOdq76dG54TzkOTCT4/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9mMmE5/YzFhYzk5ZmMwOTRm/YjM1NTEwZGRkMTk5/MjkzYi5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}