{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Success Reimagined with Amna Shabbir MD ","title":"Ep 30. But What Will People Say? Sahaj Kohli on Perfectionism, Belonging & Bicultural Identity - Unmasking Perfectionism Series","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1841,"description":"Understanding perfectionism requires examining it in complete cultural context.In this powerful episode of Success Reimagined with Amna Shabbir, MD, I sit down with Sahaj Kohli—author of But What Will People Say? and founder of Brown Girl Therapy—to explore how perfectionism shows up uniquely for children of immigrants and those navigating bicultural identities.We dive deep into why so many high achievers feel “never enough,” how impression management keeps us in a “glass house,” and what it takes to rewrite the narrative with self-compassion, intergenerational understanding, and permission to rest.Episode TakeawaysBy the end of this episode, you’ll learn:The three types of perfectionism—self-oriented, other-oriented, socially prescribed—and how they manifest in immigrant householdsWhy perfectionism often feels like survival for South Asian and bicultural communitiesThe concept of impression management and the “glass house” metaphor that shapes identity and pressureHow intergenerational compassion reframes family expectations and cultural survival storiesWhy rest and play are acts of resistance—and ways to reclaim joy for yourself and your ancestorsAbout The Guest:Sahaj Kohli is a therapist, writer, and speaker whose work focuses on mental health, identity, and bicultural belonging. She is the founder of Brown Girl Therapy, the first and largest mental health community for children of immigrants, and the host of the podcast So We Have Been Told. Sahaj’s debut book, But What Will People Say?, offers an honest guide for navigating family expectations, bicultural identity, and mental health with compassion and clarity.Connect with Sahaj:📖 Sahaj’s book: But What Will People Say? A Guide for Children of Immigrants Navigating Mental Health, Family Expectations, and Bicultural Identity🌐 Brown Girl Therapy: https://sahajkaurkohli.com/brown-girl-therapy 🎧 Sahaj’s podcast: So We Have Been Told: https://sahajkaurkohli.com/podcast ✉️ Subscribe to Culturally Enough newsletter...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/QEE2f337cKVpjs0qsD34kLfH1IC05rMH7dxK2ABS5Zk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS82Yjk4/YjMyNjBlMmQ1ZWZi/OGNhYzZiYmNmODQy/NDdlMi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}