{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Beyond Your Default","title":"The Power of Language: Choosing Your Words to Shape Your Destiny ","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2531,"description":"It doesn't matter whether we consider ourselves introverts, extroverts, ambiverts, or some other yet-to-be-discovered \"vert,\" we humans are social creatures. But the one person we spend the most time talking to isn't our best friend, a parent, or a spouse.Whether we realize it or not, that person we talk to the most is ourselves. Morning, noon, and night — consciously or not consciously; with mental pictures or with an inner dialogue; out loud or with our \"inside voices\" inside our brains – we are constantly chattering away to ourselves ... often about ourselves.⚡ Related: Good Ego vs. Bad Ego and What to Do When You Need to Tame ItI'll be the first to admit that, when I catch myself talking to myself out loud when I'm by myself, I sometimes worry if I'm crazy. But for those of you out there who may be like me, there's tons of scholarship out there that shows talking to yourself (out loud or to yourself) is a totally normal way and often essential way to process thoughts, feelings, and experiences.Now, if you live alone (like I do), you may be more prone to do this out loud rather than simply in your head. However, the substance of your dialogue with yourself about yourself (referred to as \"self-talk\" by many) matters quite a bit:Self-reinforcement: \"I am prepared for my talk, it will go great tomorrow!\"Self-management: \"Don't forget to call the bank today.\"Social assessment: \"When I ask him out, he will likely say yes.\"But what if we don't default to more neutral or positive talk tracks about ourselves?\"I sounded ridiculous during that call.\"\"I can't ask him on a date, why would he EVER want to date someone like me?\"\"Of course I forgot to call the bank today. I can't trust myself with anything.\"\"Why did I volunteer for this presentation?! I'm going to make a total fool out of myself.\"\"I'll never amount to anything, why even bother trying?\"On its surface, these are just words, right? Not quite.We've talked about this throughout a number of episodes so far, but...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/fzZn9XhBUzA18it7_m76tStf-fGAgLyA6P_A27igPRI/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS85YjM0/MmM2ZmQ2YTdlZGY2/ZTQ1YzNhZDcyYjQ4/MTY5YS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}