{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Know Your Children with Rav Shlomo Katz","title":"4. Aiming Towards a Kesher Nafshi","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/c8464e87\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3201,"description":"In this week’s shiur, Rav Shlomo Katz continues our journey in Know Your Children toward a deeper parent–child bond—נפשו קשורה בנפשו / kesher nafshi—a two-way soul connection modeled by Yaakov and Binyamin. We review the “personalized funnel” of chinuch for each child and revisit the two loves that start every home—ahavah tiv’it (rooted in existence) and ahavah mutenet (shaped by traits)—then ask: how do we grow beyond one-way love into a shared inner bond without slipping into favoritism, enmeshment, or blurred boundaries?\nTogether we learn:\nWhy every child demands a unique funnel from our heart to theirs—and why it begins with knowing ourselves.\nThe limits of one-way love (newborn stage and trait-based affection) and the promise of two-sided connection.\nWhat “kesher nafshi” isn’t: dependency, replacing clear expectations, or making our child responsible for our feelings.\nHow to model kibbud av va’em, set invitations (not ultimatums), and keep the family as the first lab for reciprocal relationships.\nSeeing our children inside Nishmat Kelal Yisrael—love that holds the individual and the bigger picture.\nPractical takeaways:\nThis week, offer one “invitation without expectation” for connection (walk, note, shared task) tailored to that child’s language of love.\nBefore correction, ask: Am I speaking from ahavah tiv’it or from my need to feel loved? Adjust tone accordingly.\nName and protect boundaries that keep closeness healthy (sleep, devices, respectful speech), so kesher can grow safely.\nL’ilui nishmat Batya Feiga bat Yisrael, Levi ben Yosef; for refuah sheleimah of Aliza Chana bat Naomi—tachat sha’arei shamayim.\n\nFor more Shiurim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz: https://ravshlomokatz.com\nJoin Rav Shlomo Katz’s WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_t","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/1kIczSvIsSLQhU43EiAuIwIwZqNhtmqJjeK1o3ZXq5s/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8yYTUw/ODM2ZTE4ZTk5ZWI0/OTFhZTUwYmNkNzli/Y2RlZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}