{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Welcome To Being Alive","title":"Ep 2: How Can a Relationship Survive Infidelity? Rebuilding After Betrayal","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/ca9ef489\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3033,"description":"Betrayal is one of the most painful things a couple can face. The shock, the rage, the sleepless nights, and the impossible question: do we stay or do we go? In this episode, couples and sex therapist Inez Cordoba, LICSW, CST responds to an anonymous question from a woman navigating the aftermath of infidelity while raising a new baby with the partner who hurt her.\nThis episode is not about whether she should have stayed. It's about what staying actually looks like, and what real healing requires from both people.\nInez walks through the full arc of betrayal recovery, from the disorienting crisis phase, through the decision point, into the re-bonding stage and the harder work that comes after: re-individuation, rebuilding trust through separateness, and learning to talk about the past without criticism and contempt destroying what's been rebuilt.\n📖 Resources mentioned in this episode:\n\nState of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel. Best for making meaning of a past betrayal or understanding infidelity more broadly. Not recommended in the immediate aftermath, when emotions are too raw to intellectualize.\nNot Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley P. Glass. Inez's go-to recommendation once the initial crisis has stabilized and a couple is ready to start piecing things back together.\nTell Me No Lies by Ellen Bader, Peter Pearson, and Judith D. Schwartz. Best suited for the later stages of recovery, when a couple is looking ahead and asking how to build a relationship robust enough to hold real honesty.\n🕐 Episode Chapters:\n0:00 — Podcast Intro\n1:10 — Welcome to Episode 2\n2:15 — Today's Theme: Betrayal\n3:15 — Recommended Resources\n8:20 — The Question Revealed\n10:45 — Opening Your Heart to Possibility\n14:20 — Stage 1: Crisis Phase\n17:15 — The Role of Shame\n19:35 — Avoiding Isolation\n21:35 — Stage 2: Decision Point\n24:25 — Moving Forward Together\n25:45 — The Re-Bonding Phase\n27:30 — Re-Individuation Work\n29:50 —...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/-E8-wlSA90qhQfoCcD865LVMcIKyhOgr-xazT3vk_-A/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS83ZmM2/NzJjYzQ4YzI2YmUx/ZTc1OTZjY2Q5OTgx/ZTAzZS5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}