{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Welcome To Being Alive","title":"Ep 2: How Can a Relationship Survive Infidelity? Rebuilding After Betrayal","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3033,"description":"Betrayal is one of the most painful things a couple can face. The shock, the rage, the sleepless nights, and the impossible question: do we stay or do we go? In this episode, couples and sex therapist Inez Cordoba, LICSW, CST responds to an anonymous question from a woman navigating the aftermath of infidelity while raising a new baby with the partner who hurt her.This episode is not about whether she should have stayed. It's about what staying actually looks like, and what real healing requires from both people.Inez walks through the full arc of betrayal recovery, from the disorienting crisis phase, through the decision point, into the re-bonding stage and the harder work that comes after: re-individuation, rebuilding trust through separateness, and learning to talk about the past without criticism and contempt destroying what's been rebuilt.📖 Resources mentioned in this episode:State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel. Best for making meaning of a past betrayal or understanding infidelity more broadly. Not recommended in the immediate aftermath, when emotions are too raw to intellectualize.Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley P. Glass. Inez's go-to recommendation once the initial crisis has stabilized and a couple is ready to start piecing things back together.Tell Me No Lies by Ellen Bader, Peter Pearson, and Judith D. Schwartz. Best suited for the later stages of recovery, when a couple is looking ahead and asking how to build a relationship robust enough to hold real honesty.🕐 Episode Chapters:0:00 — Podcast Intro1:10 — Welcome to Episode 22:15 — Today's Theme: Betrayal3:15 — Recommended Resources8:20 — The Question Revealed10:45 — Opening Your Heart to Possibility14:20 — Stage 1: Crisis Phase17:15 — The Role of Shame19:35 — Avoiding Isolation21:35 — Stage 2: Decision Point24:25 — Moving Forward Together25:45 — The Re-Bonding Phase27:30 — Re-Individuation Work29:50 — The Growth Edge33:45 —...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/-E8-wlSA90qhQfoCcD865LVMcIKyhOgr-xazT3vk_-A/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS83ZmM2/NzJjYzQ4YzI2YmUx/ZTc1OTZjY2Q5OTgx/ZTAzZS5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}