{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Dads On Tap","title":"How to Become a Mature Man (Part 1), Ep #23","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1369,"description":"In this episode of Dads on Tap, I share my journey from a childhood marked by my family’s financial collapse and personal struggles to discovering the concept of \"the gap\"—the space between the man we want to be and the reality we live in. Through hardships and a life-changing question from a mentor, I began to uncover the challenges holding me back. How do we bridge that gap and become mature men?\n\nYou will want to hear this episode if you are interested in...\nMy history, how I grew up, and, its influence on my maturity [3:45]\nWhy do we need to answer the question, “What’s in the gap?” [9:15]\nChallenges of our ideal self compared to our real self [10:29]\nWhy restraining our actions doesn't work towards our dream [12:30]\nThe two underlying causes for ‘the gap’ [14:05]\nMy origin story\nI grew up in Michigan, the second of four boys. My dad was an entrepreneur with a successful business, but when I was eight, we moved, and his business failed. Financial struggles followed, leading to marital problems for my parents. Between the ages 8 and 18, we moved 10 times. \nOne day, I came home to find my mom had left with my two youngest siblings, leaving my older brother and me with my dad. We struggled to keep food on the table as our family went bankrupt and lost everything. \nFor weeks, we lived in a tent at a campground. Eventually, my mom came back, and my parents reconciled—but we weren’t allowed to talk about what happened. We were just expected to move on.\nIn college, I started a career that connected me with influential leaders and large organizations. I believed my worth came from my titles and accomplishments, not who I was. Then, during a tense work meeting, my boss called me out: “I know this issue is frustrating, but your reaction was so much bigger than the problem. What’s in the gap?” That question changed my life.\nWhat’s in ‘the gap’?\nThe gap is the space between the man we dream of being and the reality of who we are. We want to be great husbands, dads, and...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/qX7je9TOx712mSKN0pWMwsftEg2rqObQ40UCWOiJPMA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8wZTBj/NTZmMWVlNTA5YmZk/OGM4NWJiYzUwNmQ3/MTAzOS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}