{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Secure Husband","title":"Anxious Attachment & Self-Worth (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1559,"description":"This episode explains why you look confident on the outside but still do not feel “enough” at home. I show how a hidden worth wound drives chasing, fixing, people-pleasing, and fear of conflict. You will learn simple steps to calm your body, keep your truth, and build real safety with your wife without begging for approval.\nWhat You’ll Learn:\nHow a hidden worth story runs your marriage\nWhy distance feels like “I’m not enough”\nHow over-giving and apologizing backfire\nWhy reassurance never lasts\nWhat secure self-worth looks like in daily life\nSix clear steps to start healing from the inside\nChapters / Timestamps:\n0:00 Opening story: the hidden worth wound\n2:48 Pattern reveal: “I am not enough unless approved”\n6:05 1) The invisible worth story behind anxious habits\n9:22 2) You look confident, but your patterns say otherwise\n12:40 3) Why her distance triggers “I’m not enough”\n16:03 4) Performing, proving, and over-functioning\n19:35 5) Conflict exposes a worth wound, not just attachment\n23:02 6) Why reassurance never works long-term\n26:20 7) Being loved vs. feeling lovable\n29:38 8) Apologizing, pleasing, and over-explaining as protection\n33:05 9) What secure self-worth looks like in a husband\n36:22 10) Six steps to reclaim worth from the inside\n40:10 Closing: worth is returned, not earned\nKey Points:\nYou are not broken. You learned to earn love.\nDistance can feel like a worth loss. Name it and breathe.\nPeacekeeping is not safety. Honest presence is safety.\nReassurance is a bandage. Identity work heals the root.\nSecure men hold their ground with calm, not force.\nTry These This Week:\nReplace “I’m fine” with one clear feeling and one clear need.\nPause before you fix. Say, “I’m here. Keep going,” and stay present.\nGive affection with no strings. Let closeness be free.\nBefore you apologize, ask, “Am I keeping connection or giving up myself?”\nAfter hard moments, ask, “Did I keep my worth, or hand it away?”\nFree 30-Minute Consultation:\nWant help with this? Book a free...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/YJmHpXqr3wfrhL5fsdmtlNEm6ml1FboHb1lRAj0byEY/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8xM2Vj/NGY4MTMxZDhhNmE5/ZGI4YzVmMjNmZjRh/YWU4MC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}