{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Holding Patterns","title":"8. Trying to Manufacture Certainty | A Perfectionist’s Guide to Coloring Outside the Lines","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3356,"description":"This week, my friend Kate and I are talking about our obsession with certainty, and all the ways we try to create it when life refuses to give it to us. Kate is an Outward Bound instructor and middle school English teacher. Outside of her professional endeavors, she defines herself as an enthusiast of escaping into the wilderness and an advocate for earnestness. \nFrom chasing achievement and validation to planning our lives down to the smallest detail, it's easy to convince ourselves that if we can just figure out the \"right\" path, we'll finally feel settled. But what if the very thing we're searching for is keeping us stuck?\nWe chat about perfectionism (eldest daughters, this one's for you), achievement as a source of self-worth, and how our surroundings shape what we believe success is supposed to look like.\nAlong the way, we discuss following the energy of people who inspire us, how passion projects can turn into something real, and why the chaos we're often trying to avoid may actually contain the outcome we're hoping for.\nThis conversation is really about the tension between competing desires, the voice that wants security and the voice that wants adventure, and how to decide which one gets the final say.\nAnd finally, a simple question: if your younger self could see the life you're building today, what would make them proud?_______________________________________________\nHolding Patterns Instagram Here! (https://www.instagram.com/holdingpatternspod?igsh=MXB1ajk3ZHhwdjYxMg%3D%3D)\nCover art by Remy Arnold (https://www.instagram.com/remyarnoldxo?igsh=dWx3aWJsMmZheWNx)\nMusic by penguinmusic - Better Day from Pixabay","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/gzSuZaQKCE_1J6Vl0-5y437s6Mbq3Am3G2qUFbmjEWo/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS83ODQx/ODZjYTQyMzI1OGY0/N2VmMjVjYjQyZThh/NjhlYi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}