{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Beyond the Gray","title":"How to Stop an Urge Before It Wins | A 5-Step Neuroscience Tool | Ep. 19","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1397,"description":"What happens when you feel the urge or nudge to drink and you know you are better off without it? Back in 2018, I was 18 months sober, standing in a grocery store, staring at a display of Chardonnay right next to the fish counter. My mouth was salivating. My brain was screaming, \"Just buy it.\" And I did the only thing I could think of. I yelled \"STOP\" out loud. In the middle of the store. In front of everyone.\nThat moment became the foundation of everything I now teach my clients. In Episode 19 of Beyond the Gray, I'm sharing the SABER Method for the first time on the podcast. It's a five-step, neuroscience-backed tool for the exact moment when life tries to pull you back into old patterns. Not motivation. Not willpower. An actual map for what to do when the urge hits and your brain is on fire.\nIn this episode you'll hear:\n• The full grocery store story: 18 months sober, one bad day, and a display of Chardonnay\n• Why willpower is a lie and what actually works in the moment\n• Cognitive dissonance explained: the internal power struggle between who you were and who you're becoming\n• The six core universal emotions and how they trigger old patterns before your conscious mind catches up\n• Protective states vs. expansive states and how to move between them\n• Neuroplasticity and neurosculpting: how every SABER practice builds a new neural pathway\n• The full SABER Method breakdown: Stop, Acknowledge, Breathe, Embrace, Redirect\n• Why \"embrace\" is the step most people skip and why it might be the most important\n• How to use SABER as a verb: \"SABER your way through\" any tough moment\n• A practice you can start today and questions to sit with this week\nIf you've ever had a moment where the old version of you showed up uninvited and you didn't know what to do, this episode gives you the exact tool to handle it. Not someday. Right now.\n—————\nTHE SABER METHOD\nS — Stop (say it out loud)\nA — Acknowledge (observe without obeying)\nB — Breathe (calm the nervous system)\nE — Embrace...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/o3QgvEYD_EzW-1N7UZfNYTN4qL2oafyqZIw1SF69BYo/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9kYjNl/NjgxZTdjNDY2YjIw/NjdlNjBlYTUyMjgw/OTZjMy5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}